I've "met" two people recently related to health concerns. Both live in my city and have some of the same health concerns. I met one for lunch, went well. I met her through the national organization. We have one health concern in common. The other, I met through FB. The other posted on a FB site. She lives in my city, has lupus and several other health problems I also have. It is almost creepy. We've texted and messenged on FB and have spoken on the phone. She lives about fifteen minutes away, but oddly says she is in my immediate area often, claiming to shop at this expensive little grocery store very near my house, often. Both my husband and closest friend said to me..."oh my goodness, having this much in common, you should meet for coffee or something." So, one day in my chat with her, I said so, something like"let's meet for coffee someday." She totally ignored that comment and never mentioned it again and neither have I. Let's call her "M" One day, while on the phone, she tells me she use to be a millionaire, but fell on hard times and tells me some details of how her husband's business isn't doing well and she had to stop working due to health problems and now money is a little tight. I tell her I'm sorry to hear of her troubles. But, then I see on FB, that she is planning a family vacation at probably THE most expensive hotels in the state...one of the most expensive probably in the country. I didn't say much, just wished her a fun trip. Recently, I haven't heard much from her...still in contact, but much less...quieter and shorter. So, since I'm sick in bed, I wrote her a larger than usual message recently. She tells me she is getting a certain test and I happen to ask her "who is your rheumatologist again?" I recall she said she liked him, but couldn't recall his name. There was a long pause. Seems awhile back, she switched from her doctor to MINE!!!!!AND, she never mentioned it. WTH??? I'm starting to get a little creeped out by the inconsistencies and oddness.... 1. Says she is having money problems but is going to super expensive hotel for vacation (she stated this right after I said we were going on a trip soon. ) 2. Shops at super expensive little grocery in my immediate area...NOT her neighborhood 3. We have tons of stuff in common, but obviously doesn't wish to meet me even for a simple coffee and ignores me when I suggest this..felt creepy 4. Likes her doctor, but quietly switches to Mine...doesn't mention it...even though we've chatted briefly several times since 5. Changes her communication pattern after number 4 6. Doesn't tell me she switched to my doctor, until by happenstance I ask her who her doctor is (because I forgot his name) I'm concerned...i think she is VERY peculiar!!!!!! Nice, but strange. I think I'm going to pull back. Just doesn't feel right. Thoughts??????