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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 544204" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>I am so glad you are going to the psychiatric. Is he on medications? If so this is not good to pair with drinking.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any answers-most of what we have tried has not fixed my daughter's problems. There is some improvement here and there. I can share one thing she said to me last Sep. after her release from the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p></p><p>She told me I should have been stricter when she was 14 and this was all starting-I should not have let her go to this one particular girl's home. Now I did meet the parent and at one point I did tell her I was not ok with this friendship and refused to let her stay the night. But apparently I should have done more. Honestly, the more I cracked down, the more difficult child found ways around to get what she wanted. But I have often wondered if I did not have too much denial about how serious her MJ habit was and the influence of this girl. </p><p></p><p>Why was he gone? Does he run away? Can you get him into treatment beyond a psychiatric. evaluation? Is he going to school? Passing? My daughter is a runner and this is terrifying and their way of avoiding our rules and getting what they want as well as controlling us-really hard to stop this behavior.</p><p></p><p>By the way, teenagers who are not doing well as well as addicts love to blame. It is one of the biggest character flaws they have. You cannot take this on, it can really set you back and the guilt issues over take you ( I know been there done that). Can you keep him from this friend? It sounds like a train wreck this relationship. I know how hard that is-just wondering how much control you have if any? I have had to go to Families Anon. to get relief as we have done everything. I do not have any control over our daughter and that is the case when they reach this age and decide to go down this path. When combined with mental health issues, substance abuse is a bear to deal with. I have begun to learn to let go and to change my own behaviors (which is the only thing I have control over). I wish I had started this sooner.</p><p></p><p>I also want to say that when we have teens who are "different"-because of disabilities, giftedness, mental health issues, as parents it is so hard to watch them negotiate the friend thing. They are not accepted and often bullied. They are lonely (as my daughter is now). When they do have a friend, we hope they are normal. In my experience they never are because our kids are not "normal". They attract the druggies who will accept anybody. This just creates this horrible social dynamic that only our kids can decide to get out of.</p><p></p><p>Others will be along with support. I am sorry you are here, but glad you see the drinking as a big problem-It took me awhile and that was lost time for us. ((Hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 544204, member: 11001"] I am so glad you are going to the psychiatric. Is he on medications? If so this is not good to pair with drinking. I don't have any answers-most of what we have tried has not fixed my daughter's problems. There is some improvement here and there. I can share one thing she said to me last Sep. after her release from the last Residential Treatment Center (RTC). She told me I should have been stricter when she was 14 and this was all starting-I should not have let her go to this one particular girl's home. Now I did meet the parent and at one point I did tell her I was not ok with this friendship and refused to let her stay the night. But apparently I should have done more. Honestly, the more I cracked down, the more difficult child found ways around to get what she wanted. But I have often wondered if I did not have too much denial about how serious her MJ habit was and the influence of this girl. Why was he gone? Does he run away? Can you get him into treatment beyond a psychiatric. evaluation? Is he going to school? Passing? My daughter is a runner and this is terrifying and their way of avoiding our rules and getting what they want as well as controlling us-really hard to stop this behavior. By the way, teenagers who are not doing well as well as addicts love to blame. It is one of the biggest character flaws they have. You cannot take this on, it can really set you back and the guilt issues over take you ( I know been there done that). Can you keep him from this friend? It sounds like a train wreck this relationship. I know how hard that is-just wondering how much control you have if any? I have had to go to Families Anon. to get relief as we have done everything. I do not have any control over our daughter and that is the case when they reach this age and decide to go down this path. When combined with mental health issues, substance abuse is a bear to deal with. I have begun to learn to let go and to change my own behaviors (which is the only thing I have control over). I wish I had started this sooner. I also want to say that when we have teens who are "different"-because of disabilities, giftedness, mental health issues, as parents it is so hard to watch them negotiate the friend thing. They are not accepted and often bullied. They are lonely (as my daughter is now). When they do have a friend, we hope they are normal. In my experience they never are because our kids are not "normal". They attract the druggies who will accept anybody. This just creates this horrible social dynamic that only our kids can decide to get out of. Others will be along with support. I am sorry you are here, but glad you see the drinking as a big problem-It took me awhile and that was lost time for us. ((Hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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