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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 544367" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Witsend,</p><p>This is so very hard. There are days when I could just cry myself to sleep-only problem is I have already cried myself dry! The grief of loosing the child we had just keeps coming in waves as we morn each loss along the way-school potential, sobriety, a happy life,good friends, a mate etc. All these things are just a struggle for them. There is little help, no cures, plenty of people who want to blame you as the parents, and nothing but negative feedback everywhere. It is hard to watch our kids suffer as they fling disrespect in our face, steal, lie cheat and do horrible things. I have to tell myself that it is not a moral problem but a medical one. And I also have to decide daily what is the best way to have a peaceful home given the day's demands. As you know stress and demands can send these kids over the edge, yet this is what they must learn to cope with in life.</p><p></p><p>My daughter too has a sexual addiction-though it has never been diagnosed-we have been told that it is a compulsion that is part of her reaction to the abuse she has suffered. She seems to struggle with it at every stressor. We have had a few good months lately. Addiction is addiction. Many of the behaviors are the same and the brain reaction is the same. This addiction is tricky because in the end we want them not to completely quit (like with drugs), but to have a healthy sexual life. Finding treatment for teens is amazingly hard on this one. (Easier for boys than girls). I do know of one program that is affordable. It may be in your area (You may PM me if your interested). It is also recommended that they see someone who is a certified sex therapist. Even in our larger city it is near impossible to get into one-esp. for a teen. We have been on a waiting list for 2 years! Since he has had a problem before, I would not assume it has ended on it's own. They figure out ways to get their "fix" despite the barriers and limits we set.</p><p></p><p>The erratic behavior and sudden change are a concern. It does sound like drug use and yet I also know that bipolar disorders can set in like wildfire at this age. I'm glad your going in and hope you can get support for your family as well. Keep us posted and hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 544367, member: 11001"] Witsend, This is so very hard. There are days when I could just cry myself to sleep-only problem is I have already cried myself dry! The grief of loosing the child we had just keeps coming in waves as we morn each loss along the way-school potential, sobriety, a happy life,good friends, a mate etc. All these things are just a struggle for them. There is little help, no cures, plenty of people who want to blame you as the parents, and nothing but negative feedback everywhere. It is hard to watch our kids suffer as they fling disrespect in our face, steal, lie cheat and do horrible things. I have to tell myself that it is not a moral problem but a medical one. And I also have to decide daily what is the best way to have a peaceful home given the day's demands. As you know stress and demands can send these kids over the edge, yet this is what they must learn to cope with in life. My daughter too has a sexual addiction-though it has never been diagnosed-we have been told that it is a compulsion that is part of her reaction to the abuse she has suffered. She seems to struggle with it at every stressor. We have had a few good months lately. Addiction is addiction. Many of the behaviors are the same and the brain reaction is the same. This addiction is tricky because in the end we want them not to completely quit (like with drugs), but to have a healthy sexual life. Finding treatment for teens is amazingly hard on this one. (Easier for boys than girls). I do know of one program that is affordable. It may be in your area (You may PM me if your interested). It is also recommended that they see someone who is a certified sex therapist. Even in our larger city it is near impossible to get into one-esp. for a teen. We have been on a waiting list for 2 years! Since he has had a problem before, I would not assume it has ended on it's own. They figure out ways to get their "fix" despite the barriers and limits we set. The erratic behavior and sudden change are a concern. It does sound like drug use and yet I also know that bipolar disorders can set in like wildfire at this age. I'm glad your going in and hope you can get support for your family as well. Keep us posted and hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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