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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 544487" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Oh Ugh, I lost my post. Staring over..... </p><p></p><p>Calamity - Thank you for sharing the infer about your difficult child. They sound a lot alike. I'm not sure what to hope for... drugs or bi-polar or Aspergers? None of them are great, Know what I mean?? I guess an answer will give us a route to take with this - that's about it. </p><p></p><p>MWM - I have checked his FB and computer and cell phone but since he moved out in early April (back at end of May) he has changed all his passwords and I don't have access to anything. I did go through his room with a fine tooth comb and removed all pocket knives, matches (he's been playing with fire in his room - scares the hell out of me), belts, etc. I did not find any drugs or paraphenalia. </p><p></p><p>Alabama - I know he was using an anonymous sex website via his cell phone. I suspect that he still is because I can tell how much data he is using and he seems to be up at all hours of the night on the internet on his phone. I don't want to cut the phone off because he will communicate with me using his phone when he is gone. He has a job now and will be paying for it himself very soon anyway. The internet goes off when he is home. Sometimes I will let him use it during the day for short periods but when I go to bed I take the power cord with me. </p><p></p><p>I'll look into the sexting laws. I do know that if he distributes any photos of anyone under age 15 (which is entirely possible with him being just 16) then that is considered distribution of child pornography regardless of his age and he would then be a registered sex offender. </p><p></p><p>I've warned him many times about stuff like this. Hopefully he uses his brain and doesn't do anything stupid. </p><p></p><p>Exhausted - Thank you. I PM'd you. We have instituted rules 1,2, and 3. Rule 4 will be next. The cell phone he'll be paying for soon. and I am controlling his internet access but maybe not enough. We have a digital lock on our door and can change the code at any time if needed - we installed it just for difficult child. </p><p></p><p>He was pretty good yesterday - husband and I took them to the lake for a swim after dinner to cool off and we all enjoyed ourselves until the end when he started 'thinking' about things and got down in the dumps again. And he was good again today. Doesn't have any 'plans' until Saturday so he said he'll be home when he's not working (just started a job this week). I wish he was more afraid of striking out on his own or couch surfing. It would give us a little more control. Saying 'no' at this point is pointless because he'll just take off anyway. </p><p></p><p>Funny thing though. He asked me yesterday if he could go out and i think if I'd have said no he'd have been ok with it. But last week he wasn't. He's done this before. His plans didn't pan out yesterday so it didn't matter but it's odd behaviour. He's back and forth that way. He did this a few months ago when it came to having sleepovers at his girlfriends house (they are split up now). </p><p></p><p>Thank you all of your support. I think I will need to start checking his room every time he goes to work or out. I know he has another knife that I want to get because he's also a cutter and has threatened to slit his wrists recently. Don't know where he got the knife but they aren't hard to come by.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 544487, member: 14356"] Oh Ugh, I lost my post. Staring over..... Calamity - Thank you for sharing the infer about your difficult child. They sound a lot alike. I'm not sure what to hope for... drugs or bi-polar or Aspergers? None of them are great, Know what I mean?? I guess an answer will give us a route to take with this - that's about it. MWM - I have checked his FB and computer and cell phone but since he moved out in early April (back at end of May) he has changed all his passwords and I don't have access to anything. I did go through his room with a fine tooth comb and removed all pocket knives, matches (he's been playing with fire in his room - scares the hell out of me), belts, etc. I did not find any drugs or paraphenalia. Alabama - I know he was using an anonymous sex website via his cell phone. I suspect that he still is because I can tell how much data he is using and he seems to be up at all hours of the night on the internet on his phone. I don't want to cut the phone off because he will communicate with me using his phone when he is gone. He has a job now and will be paying for it himself very soon anyway. The internet goes off when he is home. Sometimes I will let him use it during the day for short periods but when I go to bed I take the power cord with me. I'll look into the sexting laws. I do know that if he distributes any photos of anyone under age 15 (which is entirely possible with him being just 16) then that is considered distribution of child pornography regardless of his age and he would then be a registered sex offender. I've warned him many times about stuff like this. Hopefully he uses his brain and doesn't do anything stupid. Exhausted - Thank you. I PM'd you. We have instituted rules 1,2, and 3. Rule 4 will be next. The cell phone he'll be paying for soon. and I am controlling his internet access but maybe not enough. We have a digital lock on our door and can change the code at any time if needed - we installed it just for difficult child. He was pretty good yesterday - husband and I took them to the lake for a swim after dinner to cool off and we all enjoyed ourselves until the end when he started 'thinking' about things and got down in the dumps again. And he was good again today. Doesn't have any 'plans' until Saturday so he said he'll be home when he's not working (just started a job this week). I wish he was more afraid of striking out on his own or couch surfing. It would give us a little more control. Saying 'no' at this point is pointless because he'll just take off anyway. Funny thing though. He asked me yesterday if he could go out and i think if I'd have said no he'd have been ok with it. But last week he wasn't. He's done this before. His plans didn't pan out yesterday so it didn't matter but it's odd behaviour. He's back and forth that way. He did this a few months ago when it came to having sleepovers at his girlfriends house (they are split up now). Thank you all of your support. I think I will need to start checking his room every time he goes to work or out. I know he has another knife that I want to get because he's also a cutter and has threatened to slit his wrists recently. Don't know where he got the knife but they aren't hard to come by. [/QUOTE]
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