Ugh big time!!! difficult child came home today and said, "J and I are going to settle things once and for all." When asked what that meant, "We both hate each other and want to punch each other's faces in so after school on Monday, J and I are going to fight. He thinks he can own me and he named the place and time." I advised difficult child not to go through with this - he is to ignore J and when J brings it up on Tuesday difficult child can reply, "Oh, yeah, I forgot - it is not that important - I have better things to do." (He wanted to add "You loser" but I advised against that also) difficult child plans on riding bike to school on Monday (no school tomorrow or Friday with MEA) and then ride to the "meeting spot" to see if anyone shows up. I told him that of course J will show up with the entire basketball team to beat on difficult child. I told him to not even go there. I am not going to allow him to ride bike on Monday (I am sure he will forget to anyway). I will also pick him up after school (a different door and opposite side of the building from the "meeting" place). difficult child talked about taking it to the Vice Principal to report this. I told him that would be a good thing. I don't know that he will though so I will call the VP on Monday morning to alert him to this threat. The VP can call both boys into the office without either of them know I called and deal with it. (difficult child is just as much to blame and should get some disciplining also for even thinking of and planning this) My list for therapist is growing. I want therapist to work with difficult child on his anger management. To recognize annoyance before it turns to anger and to recognize the onset of anger and how to deal with those feelings. It is not often that difficult child gets very angry but when it does it is ugly and hard to reign him in. I told him that he can not shelter himself from annoying people all the time and that he needs to learn how to react (or not react). Good for him to get some tools before it grows. We may go back to monthly or twice a month therapist visits for this task. This mean spot in him is so small yet so strong that it scares me. Will there be a day that it takes over long enough to cause him big problems? Will he either end up hurting someone or get beaten for his attitude when the meaness trys to poke through? Either scenario is not good!