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<blockquote data-quote="Estherfromjerusalem" data-source="post: 409431" data-attributes="member: 77"><p>Quite honestly, I don't go in for groups. I do like spending time with friends, but one on one. I can have a good deep conversation with one friend, but only one, at a time. We have a very large crowd of friends, but my husband and I don't go in for the social meetings etc. I have one very very close friend with whom I can discuss anything at all, and I know that is because she is not judgmental. That's what I can't stand -- judgmental. And all those people whose lives seem to be going so smoothly, they think they know everything. But people who haven't brought up a difficult child or who aren't still living with a difficult child just haven't got a clue what our real life is all about. We have a different set of values, because we know what is really important and they just haven't got a clue. So I don't have time for all that social stuff with groups.</p><p></p><p>And funnily enough, when I am one-on-one with a girlfriend, I find that different things emerge about their lives as well, and actually everyone is coping with some sort of difficulty or difficulties, and then the conversation becomes meaningful.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I find myself being a listener, not a talker, most of the time. Which is OK, except I often come away frustrated, but only with myself. Because unburdening is also good, and I don't do enough of it because I am so used to just not talking about difficult child in company, because others just don't understand what life with a difficult child is like. It's just wonderful to have this site to communicate with people who understand and are not judgmental.</p><p></p><p>Oh well, that's life.</p><p></p><p>Love, Esther</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estherfromjerusalem, post: 409431, member: 77"] Quite honestly, I don't go in for groups. I do like spending time with friends, but one on one. I can have a good deep conversation with one friend, but only one, at a time. We have a very large crowd of friends, but my husband and I don't go in for the social meetings etc. I have one very very close friend with whom I can discuss anything at all, and I know that is because she is not judgmental. That's what I can't stand -- judgmental. And all those people whose lives seem to be going so smoothly, they think they know everything. But people who haven't brought up a difficult child or who aren't still living with a difficult child just haven't got a clue what our real life is all about. We have a different set of values, because we know what is really important and they just haven't got a clue. So I don't have time for all that social stuff with groups. And funnily enough, when I am one-on-one with a girlfriend, I find that different things emerge about their lives as well, and actually everyone is coping with some sort of difficulty or difficulties, and then the conversation becomes meaningful. Anyway, I find myself being a listener, not a talker, most of the time. Which is OK, except I often come away frustrated, but only with myself. Because unburdening is also good, and I don't do enough of it because I am so used to just not talking about difficult child in company, because others just don't understand what life with a difficult child is like. It's just wonderful to have this site to communicate with people who understand and are not judgmental. Oh well, that's life. Love, Esther [/QUOTE]
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