Took J to his new karate class tonight (he's now doing rugby, tennis and karate; is asking to go horse riding as well but I think that is enough, not to speak of the bank balance...), which seemed to go well. While I was in the village where he does it, I met the woman who runs the play centre where he goes on Wednesdays. She said, perfectly pleasantly, that she wanted to talk to me because last week J had made a rude gesture to a woman who scolded him (sigh, not saying it doesn't matter, of course it does, but this is the sort of thing he does to impress others, without any reflection in the moment...) - he must have seen another child doing it somewhere because certainly it hasn't come from me Anyway, we ended up having a long chat; she asked whether it was true that J has ADHD, whether he has been diagnosed, and then she said that it was important that they know so that they could help and understand him, and try to implement ways of managing him better and not judging him just as a naughty, badly brought up child. FIRST time anyone has recognised ADHD and wanted to help accommodate it - usually it's me explaining to people who basically don't seem to believe me... She said, though, that they had another ADHD boy who also goes there and that, in her words, he and J were "like night and day". She said this other boy wouldn't stop for a moment, wouldn't look you in the face when you spoke to him, seemed totally out of control. So what is all this about - is this other boy a typical portrait of ADHD? I'd like to meet him actually. J is extremely hyperactive and highly impulsive, his attention flitting from one thing to another when he is not involved in a directed activity. What else could it be but ADHD? What does it matter if it is exactly the symptoms of ADHD - we might as well call it that, if it gets him some help and understanding?