I am new here. God's grace brought me to this site and your postings have helped tremendously this week after years of anquish for my difficult child, husband, son and myself. Short history:
Super easy infant! Started daycare at 6 months.
Around 1 - things changed. hitting, biting, kicking started inspite of showing her it hurt us/others. Noticed very bright. Indignant if I tried to show her how to do anything. Would scream I DO!!!!! Very demanding. No tolerance for a slip up by mom or dad. Music and water play helps at times. Needs to have doors closed, things a certain way but not like the character in rain man. Does alot of pulling on the nap of the blanket (even when sleeping).
Around 3 - present - along with biting, hitting and kicking, which suddenly stopped around 4 but then the sexual curiosity started. Was expelled from two daycares. Both daycares were aware of the problem but would allow difficult child to play alone with other children which unsupervised children are against state regulations. Speaking of the state, the last daycare called the state on us for sexual abuse (initially very humiliating but God allowed it and used it for good). The state's interview with difficult child showed no abuse so it's an open/shut case. I asked for a psycological evaluation, which I am on the waiting list. Started art/play therapist in August while I wait for exam. difficult child also has sensory issues. She needs alot of stimulation. At restraurants if she starts acting up, I allow her to sit behind me and I lean on her. She loves it and I get to eat my meal Takes things very literally. I was able to get her an evaluation with the township and they put her in a integrated preschool. She did so well they removed her IEP. She stared Kindergarten last week. So far so good but she usually has a honeymoon period.
I have tried many things per your suggestions in the forum including reading the Explosive Child (Easy Child). I have had a great week because of your ideas/honest sharing/etc: ) I tried the negotiation (Plan B) from Easy Child last night and it worked well. I let go of rules. After being so in tune with difficult child her first year I was broken hearted I couldn't find the connection until now. Over the years I have learned things here and there that have brought us closer but not like through this forum. My way was not working. I am so grateful I am not alone! MY difficult child even seems to sense I am getting "it". Thank you ALL : )
Super easy infant! Started daycare at 6 months.
Around 1 - things changed. hitting, biting, kicking started inspite of showing her it hurt us/others. Noticed very bright. Indignant if I tried to show her how to do anything. Would scream I DO!!!!! Very demanding. No tolerance for a slip up by mom or dad. Music and water play helps at times. Needs to have doors closed, things a certain way but not like the character in rain man. Does alot of pulling on the nap of the blanket (even when sleeping).
Around 3 - present - along with biting, hitting and kicking, which suddenly stopped around 4 but then the sexual curiosity started. Was expelled from two daycares. Both daycares were aware of the problem but would allow difficult child to play alone with other children which unsupervised children are against state regulations. Speaking of the state, the last daycare called the state on us for sexual abuse (initially very humiliating but God allowed it and used it for good). The state's interview with difficult child showed no abuse so it's an open/shut case. I asked for a psycological evaluation, which I am on the waiting list. Started art/play therapist in August while I wait for exam. difficult child also has sensory issues. She needs alot of stimulation. At restraurants if she starts acting up, I allow her to sit behind me and I lean on her. She loves it and I get to eat my meal Takes things very literally. I was able to get her an evaluation with the township and they put her in a integrated preschool. She did so well they removed her IEP. She stared Kindergarten last week. So far so good but she usually has a honeymoon period.
I have tried many things per your suggestions in the forum including reading the Explosive Child (Easy Child). I have had a great week because of your ideas/honest sharing/etc: ) I tried the negotiation (Plan B) from Easy Child last night and it worked well. I let go of rules. After being so in tune with difficult child her first year I was broken hearted I couldn't find the connection until now. Over the years I have learned things here and there that have brought us closer but not like through this forum. My way was not working. I am so grateful I am not alone! MY difficult child even seems to sense I am getting "it". Thank you ALL : )