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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 256507" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>We went through some of this. sometimes removing Wiz' obsessions left him seeing wehre the objects were kept and he continued to feel sad, or to dwell on the item or the violence he attached to it (we ONLY removed his obsessions because violence was inevitably attached to it and the focus of it).</p><p></p><p>We would try to reintroduce the items to help him learn to regulate the obsessions and trend to violence. It took a LOT of times of removing and reintroducing a few months later. And often the spot not only kept him dwelling on how he could have killed us but also that he was so horrible a kid that we had to remove things. Neither one was a positive message.</p><p></p><p>A lot of times we tried to rearrange things so that the absence of the item was not so glaring.</p><p></p><p>With any of the obsessions we would bring back the nonviolent things a little at a time and we often never brought back items he could hurt us with that were related to the obsession.</p><p></p><p>So if it is the hunting stuff, I would keep it locked away and only bring it out when I could supervise him 100&#37; and he was not using it. For baseball stuff the bats would stay locked up but the other stuff would come back. If it is the hunting stuff, maybe trophies could come back, or some other part of the hobby.</p><p></p><p>he is still very young and unstable to bring back things like the bats, but it would be worth a try (in my opinion) to bring back the other things to see if that took the emphasis off.</p><p></p><p>do I make ANY sense?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 256507, member: 1233"] We went through some of this. sometimes removing Wiz' obsessions left him seeing wehre the objects were kept and he continued to feel sad, or to dwell on the item or the violence he attached to it (we ONLY removed his obsessions because violence was inevitably attached to it and the focus of it). We would try to reintroduce the items to help him learn to regulate the obsessions and trend to violence. It took a LOT of times of removing and reintroducing a few months later. And often the spot not only kept him dwelling on how he could have killed us but also that he was so horrible a kid that we had to remove things. Neither one was a positive message. A lot of times we tried to rearrange things so that the absence of the item was not so glaring. With any of the obsessions we would bring back the nonviolent things a little at a time and we often never brought back items he could hurt us with that were related to the obsession. So if it is the hunting stuff, I would keep it locked away and only bring it out when I could supervise him 100% and he was not using it. For baseball stuff the bats would stay locked up but the other stuff would come back. If it is the hunting stuff, maybe trophies could come back, or some other part of the hobby. he is still very young and unstable to bring back things like the bats, but it would be worth a try (in my opinion) to bring back the other things to see if that took the emphasis off. do I make ANY sense? [/QUOTE]
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