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<blockquote data-quote="ctmom05" data-source="post: 100687" data-attributes="member: 2901"><p><span style='font-family: Courier New'> <em>Ilovemyson </em>...</p><p></p><p>First of all, a hug for all the hurt you are feeling. </p><p></p><p>I share the perspective outlined by others who posted to this issue. It is understandable that you would harbor bitterness, but how you express it and to whom is key.</p><p></p><p>These people in your life have brought you pain, but casting it back upon them will only clear the air for a really brief time. You will have vented and then things will go back to that painful place all over again.</p><p></p><p>Re-read your letter and make edits. Accentuate the positive. Don't fall into the trap of sounding like a martyr. Words are not going to reel anyone in who wasn't on your side before.</p><p></p><p>While you have shouldered a fair share of setbacks, hoping that one of these folks will step up to the plate is probably unrealistic. </p><p></p><p>Be strong and send out the Christmas card, with a note inside; keep it brief. I may be n the minority here - but I would leave the asking for help part out completely. <span style="color: #FF6666"> <strong>Think of this as a chance to simply stay connected</strong>; sometimes a simple expectation leads to positive future interaction.</span></p><p></p><p>By the way, congratulations on your graduation from college, what a fabulous accomplishment...stand up and be proud<strong>!</strong></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ctmom05, post: 100687, member: 2901"] <span style='font-family: Courier New'> [i]Ilovemyson [/i]... First of all, a hug for all the hurt you are feeling. I share the perspective outlined by others who posted to this issue. It is understandable that you would harbor bitterness, but how you express it and to whom is key. These people in your life have brought you pain, but casting it back upon them will only clear the air for a really brief time. You will have vented and then things will go back to that painful place all over again. Re-read your letter and make edits. Accentuate the positive. Don't fall into the trap of sounding like a martyr. Words are not going to reel anyone in who wasn't on your side before. While you have shouldered a fair share of setbacks, hoping that one of these folks will step up to the plate is probably unrealistic. Be strong and send out the Christmas card, with a note inside; keep it brief. I may be n the minority here - but I would leave the asking for help part out completely. <span style="color: #FF6666"> [b]Think of this as a chance to simply stay connected[/b]; sometimes a simple expectation leads to positive future interaction.</span> By the way, congratulations on your graduation from college, what a fabulous accomplishment...stand up and be proud[b]![/b]</span> [/QUOTE]
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