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A letter to my son in jail
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<blockquote data-quote="Joyfullyme" data-source="post: 665176" data-attributes="member: 19400"><p>When my child was in jail for stealing a car, I wrote letters with the hope that something would make him see the potential in him - that he would begin to UNDERSTAND and make different decision.</p><p></p><p>That was 15 years ago. Nothing has changed. He is now homeless.</p><p></p><p>The sad thing is they WON'T understand - or they don't WANT to understand our point of view. Trying to explain how we feel/suffer/hope, etc. is pointless and in my case, it just gave him ammo to use to manipulate me. I know that sounds harsh, but it is just the truth.</p><p></p><p>As SWOT said, you will KNOW when he has changed because he will be living a different life; he will be respectful and working and supporting himself and doing what adults do to live in this world. You will know it by his actions.</p><p></p><p>It has taken me 20 years to see this (I'm crying right now - I can't believe it too me so long...)</p><p></p><p>Journaling has helped me - write for yourself - for your own healing. Put every feeling and thought in your journal so YOU can heal and be stronger and start to detach and move into a life that is yours. Coming here and reading has been such a balm to my aching heart and has also helped me to be strong and clear about what I want for MY life.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Joyfullyme, post: 665176, member: 19400"] When my child was in jail for stealing a car, I wrote letters with the hope that something would make him see the potential in him - that he would begin to UNDERSTAND and make different decision. That was 15 years ago. Nothing has changed. He is now homeless. The sad thing is they WON'T understand - or they don't WANT to understand our point of view. Trying to explain how we feel/suffer/hope, etc. is pointless and in my case, it just gave him ammo to use to manipulate me. I know that sounds harsh, but it is just the truth. As SWOT said, you will KNOW when he has changed because he will be living a different life; he will be respectful and working and supporting himself and doing what adults do to live in this world. You will know it by his actions. It has taken me 20 years to see this (I'm crying right now - I can't believe it too me so long...) Journaling has helped me - write for yourself - for your own healing. Put every feeling and thought in your journal so YOU can heal and be stronger and start to detach and move into a life that is yours. Coming here and reading has been such a balm to my aching heart and has also helped me to be strong and clear about what I want for MY life. Hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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