So, I have identified the "biggest" trigger for difficult child's rages and of course it is PMS. difficult child started her period 3 days ago. quite frustratingly too, we go on at almost the same times so we are grouchy as you know what together. Wow, it only took me 5 months to figure that out. Geez. But what I really need to know is if anyone's difficult child is having rages during PMS time, WHAT DO YOU DO to make it better or less painful for them? She's been much more mellow now that she's a few days into it. She is at least co-operating to clean her room, has been showering and talking to me in a normal tone of voice. I have been getting up now at the time they get home from school instead of sleeping in until 6pm before I go to work. It's working a little better. They don't trash the house as much and have their friends over.