Just wanted to update everyone in case I really needed you all soon!!! LOL! difficult child expressed she does not like the constant switching of houses. Currently we do 2 days with me, 2 days with dad, then me on the weekend - then 2 days with dad, 2 days with me and with dad on the weekend. It nicely splits the time in half and allows difficult child to get the break she tends to need from all the adults in her life. I have told difficult child she seems to get more frustrated after 3 days with any household. But, she wanted a change. My difficult child was with me for 2 weeks as a trial. She kept expressing not wanting to be at her dad's house. So we tried it with her with me for 2 weeks. It was good! She is definately still a miserable person at times. She can be snippy and mouthy - but for the most part stops when I express my desire for her not to speak to me that way. Does not mean it stops for good, just for the moment - which is way ahead of a few years ago. Last night we reviewed the 2 week trial with Dex and Stepmom. Stepmom and difficult child were having major problems. They got it all out in the open. I was so proud of my difficult child. And I could see the relief on her face when Stepmom told her how much she loves her. I think my difficult child (as she does often, even with me) was doubting the love by stepmom. She needs the reminder/confirmation more than most. Now we are trying another new idea. She goes to Dad's today for an entire week. Then a full week with me and so on. I secretly cried alot last night. I do not want her away from me for that long. I know it sounds silly - but it is not the way I would like this to go. But, I am trying it for her sake. She just seemed so relieved to have come up with a solution - and honestly I think since we gave her the power to figure out what to try, she was thrilled! I did express that it was too long to be away from either one of her parents - she rolled her eyes with a giggle and told me I was being ridiculous (in a joking way). She gave me a big hug and a kiss this AM. I never get that. I guess that is a positive already!! Wish me luck!!!