witzend
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I realized I haven't updated our stuff lately, so I thought it would be a good time. husband and I and the dogs are doing pretty well. A year ago I was totally tired of him and his laziness, but having put him out of the car in a downpour 2 miles from home did both of us a world of good. That wasn't the end to our troubles, but it gave us a point at which we both realized that we were done with rehashing the same old problems again. 
Also, we are essentially done with the inside work to be done on the house, so anything to be done is just general upkeep or small one day projects.
M had been working in the office where L's dad works as an administrative assistant. They let him go just before Christmas. I hope that someone (other than me because I'm a clueless clot) will explain to him that they didn't let him go because he made a mistake - which he did - but because when they talked to him about it he was more interested in coming up with excuses than in learning from his mistake. So, he is now living with a girlfriend and some roommates and working swing shift at a Plaid Pantry in a really dicey neighborhood. I have told him about Voc Rehab, and I hope he will go, but he feels like he should stay at the job that he has to avoid looking like someone who bounces from job to job. I know that's an admirable stance, but I'm sure that the job is physically demanding on him. Oh well. I made the suggestion and that's all I can do. He can ask me again if he wants more info.
L turned 26 in March and her dad seems to have followed through on the "she's cut off" at that time. She's working as a nanny since February. Of course, it's only been a month that she's been cut off, so we'll see how that goes. We went through the "I think my boyfriend will ask me to marry him" at Christmas, Valentines, her birthday, and their 5 year anniversary this month. He didn't. He is selling his house because he is a car dealer and times are bad.
L's dad finished paying off her car last month, so you have to know what she did. She traded in her paid for car to buy a brand new Nissan Exterra. Her boyfriend got her a deal, so her payment isn't terrible. I'm hoping that now that she has this monthly obligation in her name only she will see that she has to keep on working no matter what. She's nannied before, but she usually doesn't last much more than a year. She tends to think she knows what's best for other people's children, and that doesn't work for long.
You might remember that the last two times that her boyfriend moved he moved without her. It always seems to work out that she gets a job, he sells his house or buys a house, and she is not invited to move with him. I have no clue as to what will happen this time. They have a dog, so that's different. He didn't want the dog, so I don't know. I hope that they will try to find a place that can take both L and the dog. She's not making enough to make it on her own, and she's a terrible roommate. But, I'm staying out of it. And she's not moving in with us again.
I am still working 6 - 8 hours a week. I've had a lot of pain this past few weeks from over-exertion. It happens every spring, because I think that I can work in the yard and once I start something I can't bring myself to stop until the job is finished. I'm trying really hard to engage husband in the yard to help me out. We both actually really enjoy getting out in the yard and making a dent in the weeds or repairing fences or planting flowers, but it's not something he would choose on his own. So far we haven't had a big blow-out. Yet. We've been close, but we're both trying really hard to be sure that everyone is on the same page whether it's his book or mine, if you know what I mean.
So, all in all, things are good. I'm not worked up about the kids or the house, and that's a good thing.
Also, we are essentially done with the inside work to be done on the house, so anything to be done is just general upkeep or small one day projects.M had been working in the office where L's dad works as an administrative assistant. They let him go just before Christmas. I hope that someone (other than me because I'm a clueless clot) will explain to him that they didn't let him go because he made a mistake - which he did - but because when they talked to him about it he was more interested in coming up with excuses than in learning from his mistake. So, he is now living with a girlfriend and some roommates and working swing shift at a Plaid Pantry in a really dicey neighborhood. I have told him about Voc Rehab, and I hope he will go, but he feels like he should stay at the job that he has to avoid looking like someone who bounces from job to job. I know that's an admirable stance, but I'm sure that the job is physically demanding on him. Oh well. I made the suggestion and that's all I can do. He can ask me again if he wants more info.
L turned 26 in March and her dad seems to have followed through on the "she's cut off" at that time. She's working as a nanny since February. Of course, it's only been a month that she's been cut off, so we'll see how that goes. We went through the "I think my boyfriend will ask me to marry him" at Christmas, Valentines, her birthday, and their 5 year anniversary this month. He didn't. He is selling his house because he is a car dealer and times are bad.
L's dad finished paying off her car last month, so you have to know what she did. She traded in her paid for car to buy a brand new Nissan Exterra. Her boyfriend got her a deal, so her payment isn't terrible. I'm hoping that now that she has this monthly obligation in her name only she will see that she has to keep on working no matter what. She's nannied before, but she usually doesn't last much more than a year. She tends to think she knows what's best for other people's children, and that doesn't work for long.
You might remember that the last two times that her boyfriend moved he moved without her. It always seems to work out that she gets a job, he sells his house or buys a house, and she is not invited to move with him. I have no clue as to what will happen this time. They have a dog, so that's different. He didn't want the dog, so I don't know. I hope that they will try to find a place that can take both L and the dog. She's not making enough to make it on her own, and she's a terrible roommate. But, I'm staying out of it. And she's not moving in with us again.
I am still working 6 - 8 hours a week. I've had a lot of pain this past few weeks from over-exertion. It happens every spring, because I think that I can work in the yard and once I start something I can't bring myself to stop until the job is finished. I'm trying really hard to engage husband in the yard to help me out. We both actually really enjoy getting out in the yard and making a dent in the weeds or repairing fences or planting flowers, but it's not something he would choose on his own. So far we haven't had a big blow-out. Yet. We've been close, but we're both trying really hard to be sure that everyone is on the same page whether it's his book or mine, if you know what I mean.
So, all in all, things are good. I'm not worked up about the kids or the house, and that's a good thing.
