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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662759" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>To get it the first time, he had a diagnosis that made the people in charge think he is not capable of working. It is hard to get SS the first time. I think perhaps you are not realistic about his ability. One can be smart, but think so differenlty or have such bad learning disabilities that working needs to be very specific and you can never be what somebody else with your same IQ can do and you need a supplement for support.</p><p>I think it was smart of your son to apply. He did it because he knows...he knows, like I always knew, that there was something different about me that made working very hard. Getting fired from fifty different jobs did not make me confident in myself AND I tried hard at all of them. I have been fired from places such as McDonalds for not being able to multitask (frontal lobe damage), as a file clerk (inability to keep my mind on task and misfiling), typist (skipped sentences when typing letters) and etc.</p><p></p><p>This was but another trauma I have, however now that it has been explained to me, I feel a lot better. But I do get a little ticked when people think "You should work." Yes, and I do to the best of my ability, but there aren't many jobs I can do with all my differences and most of them don't exist anymore, such as answering services. Also, I could never have supported myself on any of the jobs I was able to not get fired from.I have worked for up to four years at one job, but it was very specific to my strengths...answering services for my verbal skills and some incoming advertising for same. But they were not moneymaker jobs.</p><p></p><p>I feel for your son and agree to disagree...in my mind he did the right thing, although he is unwilling to take it a step further and admit he really DOES have a disability and that somebody needs to handle his money and possibly other things. I would not have fought any of t hat, but those options did not exist at the time or else I did not think I was disabled because I was not in a wheel chair. I don't remember which, but I think it was the latter.</p><p></p><p>Please stay mindful, sensitive and kind, like you almost always are. That stellar heart shines through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662759, member: 1550"] To get it the first time, he had a diagnosis that made the people in charge think he is not capable of working. It is hard to get SS the first time. I think perhaps you are not realistic about his ability. One can be smart, but think so differenlty or have such bad learning disabilities that working needs to be very specific and you can never be what somebody else with your same IQ can do and you need a supplement for support. I think it was smart of your son to apply. He did it because he knows...he knows, like I always knew, that there was something different about me that made working very hard. Getting fired from fifty different jobs did not make me confident in myself AND I tried hard at all of them. I have been fired from places such as McDonalds for not being able to multitask (frontal lobe damage), as a file clerk (inability to keep my mind on task and misfiling), typist (skipped sentences when typing letters) and etc. This was but another trauma I have, however now that it has been explained to me, I feel a lot better. But I do get a little ticked when people think "You should work." Yes, and I do to the best of my ability, but there aren't many jobs I can do with all my differences and most of them don't exist anymore, such as answering services. Also, I could never have supported myself on any of the jobs I was able to not get fired from.I have worked for up to four years at one job, but it was very specific to my strengths...answering services for my verbal skills and some incoming advertising for same. But they were not moneymaker jobs. I feel for your son and agree to disagree...in my mind he did the right thing, although he is unwilling to take it a step further and admit he really DOES have a disability and that somebody needs to handle his money and possibly other things. I would not have fought any of t hat, but those options did not exist at the time or else I did not think I was disabled because I was not in a wheel chair. I don't remember which, but I think it was the latter. Please stay mindful, sensitive and kind, like you almost always are. That stellar heart shines through. [/QUOTE]
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