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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 736984" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Well, I only ever had the one, so I’m really posting this just because I’m tired and don’t want to concentrate on my work.</p><p></p><p>The first 6 months I was also in a very unhappy marriage, but he did at least change diapers and such. What he wouldn’t do was hold a job. I remember him holding my son and saying, “Your daddy is a failure.” I told him he wasn’t, because you have to try in order to fail, and he never really tried. Yeah, I knew that marriage wasn’t going to last at that point. </p><p></p><p>My first real nice memory is a friend – who’s name I’ve actually forgotten – coming and saying, <em>“You! Go take a long hot bath. I’m watching that baby!”</em> It was the nicest thing anyone did for me those first two months. I remember getting up for middle of the night feeding, but falling asleep with him latched on and waking up in the morning reclined on the sofa with his soft little cheek on my breast, so peaceful and sweet…and having peed all over me. He was a good sleeper. After just a couple weeks he slept 6 hours straight at night. It was Mother’s day. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I always said that was his gift to me. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I went back to work after 2 months so I had lots of time away from him. In fact, I worked 1 hour 15 minutes from home, and 45 minutes from my sitter. So my kid spent a lot of time in a car. I had to have a sitter, though the husband wouldn’t work, because he also wouldn’t stay with the baby…always “looking for work” – or whatever he’d call sitting in a bar all day. After my son was 4 months we moved close to work. Two months after that we were split, thank heavens. </p><p></p><p>After ex – that’s like when my being a parent really happened. So much of those first 6 months I just don’t even recall, as I was dealing with the stress of ex. I remember little things. I remember a short term of non-stop crying and projectile vomit when his tummy hurt. I remember him having SUCH a temper! If he'd get too hot he'd clench his little fists and grit his toothless gums together and just <em>scream</em>! I didn't have AC in the car...so he got hot on the drives a lot! At home, I did have a bassinette when he was tiny that was in the bedroom. I always had a crib. He couldn’t co-sleep, because I had a water bed. I had a stroller, but we didn’t do “walks” really. I had a playpen too, mostly for when I needed him to be somewhat contained when I went to the bathroom or was cooking, etc. When he was a toddler I put the Xmas tree inside it! </p><p></p><p>I fed him in his high chair in the kitchen or the dining room. I changed him wherever…couch, chair, crib usually. I had a baby bathtub, but when he could sit up I had a little chair thing that suctioned to the bottom of the tub and kept him upright. He pretty much lived in onesies and diapers, sleepers, and overalls. Really, he was usually a good baby…toddler, not so much. That’s when he started the tantrums and night terrors and everything else, right about age 2-3. but even then, he was usually a good little guy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 736984, member: 17309"] Well, I only ever had the one, so I’m really posting this just because I’m tired and don’t want to concentrate on my work. The first 6 months I was also in a very unhappy marriage, but he did at least change diapers and such. What he wouldn’t do was hold a job. I remember him holding my son and saying, “Your daddy is a failure.” I told him he wasn’t, because you have to try in order to fail, and he never really tried. Yeah, I knew that marriage wasn’t going to last at that point. My first real nice memory is a friend – who’s name I’ve actually forgotten – coming and saying, [I]“You! Go take a long hot bath. I’m watching that baby!”[/I] It was the nicest thing anyone did for me those first two months. I remember getting up for middle of the night feeding, but falling asleep with him latched on and waking up in the morning reclined on the sofa with his soft little cheek on my breast, so peaceful and sweet…and having peed all over me. He was a good sleeper. After just a couple weeks he slept 6 hours straight at night. It was Mother’s day. :) I always said that was his gift to me. Anyway, I went back to work after 2 months so I had lots of time away from him. In fact, I worked 1 hour 15 minutes from home, and 45 minutes from my sitter. So my kid spent a lot of time in a car. I had to have a sitter, though the husband wouldn’t work, because he also wouldn’t stay with the baby…always “looking for work” – or whatever he’d call sitting in a bar all day. After my son was 4 months we moved close to work. Two months after that we were split, thank heavens. After ex – that’s like when my being a parent really happened. So much of those first 6 months I just don’t even recall, as I was dealing with the stress of ex. I remember little things. I remember a short term of non-stop crying and projectile vomit when his tummy hurt. I remember him having SUCH a temper! If he'd get too hot he'd clench his little fists and grit his toothless gums together and just [I]scream[/I]! I didn't have AC in the car...so he got hot on the drives a lot! At home, I did have a bassinette when he was tiny that was in the bedroom. I always had a crib. He couldn’t co-sleep, because I had a water bed. I had a stroller, but we didn’t do “walks” really. I had a playpen too, mostly for when I needed him to be somewhat contained when I went to the bathroom or was cooking, etc. When he was a toddler I put the Xmas tree inside it! I fed him in his high chair in the kitchen or the dining room. I changed him wherever…couch, chair, crib usually. I had a baby bathtub, but when he could sit up I had a little chair thing that suctioned to the bottom of the tub and kept him upright. He pretty much lived in onesies and diapers, sleepers, and overalls. Really, he was usually a good baby…toddler, not so much. That’s when he started the tantrums and night terrors and everything else, right about age 2-3. but even then, he was usually a good little guy. [/QUOTE]
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