Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
A new diagnosis or not?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 118279" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'll tell you what others tell me. It's really too early to plan for his adulthood. Yes, we plan way ahead for our "typical" kids and have the college funds ready, etc. I'd like to say that we can do that with our Spectrum kids too, but in my opinion it's hard. Many smart ones still need supports and help, like SSDI after eighteen. Some need assisted living. Some shouldn't have and don't want families. It varies. I don't think you can make any real plan for a child with this sort of difference. The best thing to do is get interventions (In our case social skills and life skills top the list, WAY above Geometry). I think it's important for kids on the Spectrum to socialize a lot too. My son has really learned a lot about social skills from his social skills classes AND from his classmates. Does your son get out and about with peers? I homeschooled a year and one big problem was that my kids were with us all the time. Is he in activities? Sports? 4-H? Anything? I think that helps. Academic education alone is not enough for kids on the spectrum. They may be highly intelligent and very well schooled yet unable to utilize it to take care of themselves. A friend of mine has an Aspie with an IQ of 160--brilliant, but totally unable to hold a job--he's thirty years old and on SSI. Yes, he got married (he met a girl from Chile on the internet and flew there on a SSI check), but his young wife gets very angry at him. In a sense, she has to take care of him, although he is an adult, and my friend is hoping they choose not to have children. He never got any interventions because of his age. They didn't know about Aspergers thirty years ago.</p><p>She and I are not sure that, even with interventions, he'd be able to live independently. I'm looking at my own son, at fourteen and a half, and so far it looks as if he'll need assisted living as an adult...but we still have a few years to go. Spectrum kids are NOT adults by eighteen--they mature very slowly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 118279, member: 1550"] I'll tell you what others tell me. It's really too early to plan for his adulthood. Yes, we plan way ahead for our "typical" kids and have the college funds ready, etc. I'd like to say that we can do that with our Spectrum kids too, but in my opinion it's hard. Many smart ones still need supports and help, like SSDI after eighteen. Some need assisted living. Some shouldn't have and don't want families. It varies. I don't think you can make any real plan for a child with this sort of difference. The best thing to do is get interventions (In our case social skills and life skills top the list, WAY above Geometry). I think it's important for kids on the Spectrum to socialize a lot too. My son has really learned a lot about social skills from his social skills classes AND from his classmates. Does your son get out and about with peers? I homeschooled a year and one big problem was that my kids were with us all the time. Is he in activities? Sports? 4-H? Anything? I think that helps. Academic education alone is not enough for kids on the spectrum. They may be highly intelligent and very well schooled yet unable to utilize it to take care of themselves. A friend of mine has an Aspie with an IQ of 160--brilliant, but totally unable to hold a job--he's thirty years old and on SSI. Yes, he got married (he met a girl from Chile on the internet and flew there on a SSI check), but his young wife gets very angry at him. In a sense, she has to take care of him, although he is an adult, and my friend is hoping they choose not to have children. He never got any interventions because of his age. They didn't know about Aspergers thirty years ago. She and I are not sure that, even with interventions, he'd be able to live independently. I'm looking at my own son, at fourteen and a half, and so far it looks as if he'll need assisted living as an adult...but we still have a few years to go. Spectrum kids are NOT adults by eighteen--they mature very slowly. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
A new diagnosis or not?
Top