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A plea to those lucky posters who have not walked in our shoes
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 609517" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think that's a good idea. Nothing is worse than coming to our safe place and seeing judgment about our choices, just like we hear all the time from those who have kids who don't do these things and are NOT on the forums. It's not like I share my story with too many people as it is and when somebody comes here and belittles how I have managed to survive or assumes we are NOT doing enough for our grown kids, it is devastating to read. </p><p></p><p>I wish people WOULD read the forum first and have it sink into their heads what we have gone through to bring us to the points we are all at and for those who are culturally very different than us, perhaps there is a better safety net in place where you live for criminal children who can't live with family, but we don't have that in the US and sometimes we have the horrible choice of allowing our kids to be homeless before they kill us (either because they are making us so sick or because they are dangerous). In the US it is expected that individuals will care for themselves. Many of this don't have t he money to support our grown children away from home, even if we'd wanted to. </p><p></p><p>If somebody has not had a grown kid stand over you shouting obscenities in your face or putting holes in the wall or threatening to hurt you and your other loved ones...don't tell me that I should be more caring and let him come home and not detach emotionally. Please...a simple "I'm sorry" is enough if you feel the need to post anything at all.</p><p></p><p>I wish only members could post.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 609517, member: 1550"] I think that's a good idea. Nothing is worse than coming to our safe place and seeing judgment about our choices, just like we hear all the time from those who have kids who don't do these things and are NOT on the forums. It's not like I share my story with too many people as it is and when somebody comes here and belittles how I have managed to survive or assumes we are NOT doing enough for our grown kids, it is devastating to read. I wish people WOULD read the forum first and have it sink into their heads what we have gone through to bring us to the points we are all at and for those who are culturally very different than us, perhaps there is a better safety net in place where you live for criminal children who can't live with family, but we don't have that in the US and sometimes we have the horrible choice of allowing our kids to be homeless before they kill us (either because they are making us so sick or because they are dangerous). In the US it is expected that individuals will care for themselves. Many of this don't have t he money to support our grown children away from home, even if we'd wanted to. If somebody has not had a grown kid stand over you shouting obscenities in your face or putting holes in the wall or threatening to hurt you and your other loved ones...don't tell me that I should be more caring and let him come home and not detach emotionally. Please...a simple "I'm sorry" is enough if you feel the need to post anything at all. I wish only members could post. [/QUOTE]
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