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A plea to those lucky posters who have not walked in our shoes
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 609581" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I have been a member since 1999. I count the board support I received during those exceptionally dark years as one of the greatest gifts in my life. Were all of the suggestions on point or helpful? Nope. Were there some comments that rubbed me the wrong way? Yep, but some also caused me to think more outside the box and be more reflective about what was going on at the time.</p><p></p><p>None of the posters on this board are "lucky." None of us. We are walking similar paths. We bring with us a vast amount of differing experiences and opinions. That used to be the beauty of the board. Assistance and support came from unexpected places, in unexpected forms.</p><p></p><p>Seems nowadays if you post an alternate way of looking at things, you're being "unsupportive." Having recently been royally reamed by another long-time member because I had the audacity to present an alternate opinion, I've come to the conclusion that, for me, the board is no longer a soft place to land. And perhaps that's the result of decades of living with difficult children - maybe us older members just don't have it in us to consider other opinions and have become too war-weary to respond in more gentle fashions - or to just ignore the less helpful comments. Maybe it's the natural evolution of the place. Makes me sad, because the tenor of the board is, in my humble opinion, far less welcoming to newbies. Used to be take what you can, leave the rest. Now it seems more frequently we trash quite brutally differing opinions.</p><p></p><p>There have always been occasional responses that are completely off target. But to endorse a policy of "post only if you've been thru this exactly" or "post only if you agree with me" defeats the purpose and beauty of what this board used to be.</p><p></p><p>Maybe I was just lucky in that I joined at a time when, in spite of occasional board wars, there was a general acceptance and recognition that we all bring something of worth to the table.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 609581, member: 8"] I have been a member since 1999. I count the board support I received during those exceptionally dark years as one of the greatest gifts in my life. Were all of the suggestions on point or helpful? Nope. Were there some comments that rubbed me the wrong way? Yep, but some also caused me to think more outside the box and be more reflective about what was going on at the time. None of the posters on this board are "lucky." None of us. We are walking similar paths. We bring with us a vast amount of differing experiences and opinions. That used to be the beauty of the board. Assistance and support came from unexpected places, in unexpected forms. Seems nowadays if you post an alternate way of looking at things, you're being "unsupportive." Having recently been royally reamed by another long-time member because I had the audacity to present an alternate opinion, I've come to the conclusion that, for me, the board is no longer a soft place to land. And perhaps that's the result of decades of living with difficult children - maybe us older members just don't have it in us to consider other opinions and have become too war-weary to respond in more gentle fashions - or to just ignore the less helpful comments. Maybe it's the natural evolution of the place. Makes me sad, because the tenor of the board is, in my humble opinion, far less welcoming to newbies. Used to be take what you can, leave the rest. Now it seems more frequently we trash quite brutally differing opinions. There have always been occasional responses that are completely off target. But to endorse a policy of "post only if you've been thru this exactly" or "post only if you agree with me" defeats the purpose and beauty of what this board used to be. Maybe I was just lucky in that I joined at a time when, in spite of occasional board wars, there was a general acceptance and recognition that we all bring something of worth to the table. [/QUOTE]
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