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A positive update on my difficult child
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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 613337" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>I am so happy your daughter is on a healthier path, Recovering. As I was reading your post, I remembered you telling us something about your daughter's attitude toward herself seeming to change when, as you became healthier, your responses to her changed.</p><p></p><p>In a way then, your daughter's success is a testament to the benefits of detachment. Not just for parents, but for our kids, too.</p><p></p><p>Having survived another Thanksgiving with husband helping (oy vey), I read your description of allowing things at your house to flow of their own accord, and of relishing that experience. So, I am going to let husband off the hook. In fact, instead of harboring hostility over what was not perfect? I am, as you have done, going to celebrate that it was just as it was. Which, viewed in this new light, looks pretty wonderful after all.</p><p></p><p>Judgment/justification is such a convoluted thing. The decision to celebrate just what it was wholeheartedly? This is the definition of the good life.</p><p></p><p>Emotions are things of habit, too. </p><p></p><p>And celebration feels so much better.</p><p></p><p>Brene Brown is right.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>:O)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 613337, member: 1721"] I am so happy your daughter is on a healthier path, Recovering. As I was reading your post, I remembered you telling us something about your daughter's attitude toward herself seeming to change when, as you became healthier, your responses to her changed. In a way then, your daughter's success is a testament to the benefits of detachment. Not just for parents, but for our kids, too. Having survived another Thanksgiving with husband helping (oy vey), I read your description of allowing things at your house to flow of their own accord, and of relishing that experience. So, I am going to let husband off the hook. In fact, instead of harboring hostility over what was not perfect? I am, as you have done, going to celebrate that it was just as it was. Which, viewed in this new light, looks pretty wonderful after all. Judgment/justification is such a convoluted thing. The decision to celebrate just what it was wholeheartedly? This is the definition of the good life. Emotions are things of habit, too. And celebration feels so much better. Brene Brown is right. Cedar :O) [/QUOTE]
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