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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 320900"><p>EW, that is really something to think about!!!</p><p>Either accept it or do something about it.</p><p>Both would require "cognitive restructuring," and accountability.</p><p>A third option, but one that should only be done if absolutely necessary is to ask for help, but then use that help to move forward. If the Swamp asked for help one time and it didn't work, then the Tractor would have felt good having tried and the Swamp would have felt good that efforts were made on his behalf. And he might have seen that it was something that could not have been done. Perhaps he could have thought of a different solution. If the tractor stopped helping, perhaps the swamp would have decided to accept his situation and the tractor could have lived.</p><p></p><p>If the Swamp asked for help, but had an attitude of "I'll take it from here" combined with a grateful spirit this would be a different story. This would help a person get "unstuck"...but they would still have to decide whether or not to do something about their situation.</p><p></p><p>If it didn't work, well, maybe it would be time to accept it (like I said above). Or maybe the Swamp has to look for another solution, one in which people and machinery doesn't get hurt. (LOL!) If the situation is dire, perhaps the Swamp can be referred to another source (one that is safe) for help.</p><p></p><p>If we keep on helping the person (the Tractor repeatedly helping the Swamp) and they don't help themselves, the same things repeat themselves and we exhaust ourselves, then no progress is made and we run the risk of hurting ourselves in an extreme manner.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 320900"] EW, that is really something to think about!!! Either accept it or do something about it. Both would require "cognitive restructuring," and accountability. A third option, but one that should only be done if absolutely necessary is to ask for help, but then use that help to move forward. If the Swamp asked for help one time and it didn't work, then the Tractor would have felt good having tried and the Swamp would have felt good that efforts were made on his behalf. And he might have seen that it was something that could not have been done. Perhaps he could have thought of a different solution. If the tractor stopped helping, perhaps the swamp would have decided to accept his situation and the tractor could have lived. If the Swamp asked for help, but had an attitude of "I'll take it from here" combined with a grateful spirit this would be a different story. This would help a person get "unstuck"...but they would still have to decide whether or not to do something about their situation. If it didn't work, well, maybe it would be time to accept it (like I said above). Or maybe the Swamp has to look for another solution, one in which people and machinery doesn't get hurt. (LOL!) If the situation is dire, perhaps the Swamp can be referred to another source (one that is safe) for help. If we keep on helping the person (the Tractor repeatedly helping the Swamp) and they don't help themselves, the same things repeat themselves and we exhaust ourselves, then no progress is made and we run the risk of hurting ourselves in an extreme manner. [/QUOTE]
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