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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 213171" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am fascinated by the glimpse into your culture, and esp by the idea that if a child doesn't drink then they won't have friends. Here in the US the legal age to drink or buy alcohol is 21. You can legally allow your own child to have it in your own home, but most states, if not all, prohibit you from allowing other people's kids to drink. In some states you can let your child have a sip of your drink at a restaurant, but not all states by any means. And if the social workers find out you ahve been letting your under 18yo child drink Occupational Therapist (OT) get tipsy or drunk there are chances you can lose custody of htem. </p><p> </p><p>I think, overall, it is a wiser theory to teach children their limits. But we have a genetic risk of alcoholism in MANY MANY families, and you never know which child has the gene (my bro does, I do not - he is a recovering alcoholic and I have never really had a problem with getting drunk or with stopping once I have started - actually I rarely drink because so few alcohols taste good to me, the ones that do are REALLY expensive, LOL!).</p><p> </p><p>So they want you to send your daughter to a reform school for juvenile criminals because she doesn't want to drink? Sounds like something I would not be in favor of, but I don't know what is or isn't the norm there. Is it only because you are not danish that you have this social worker in your lives, or does every family have one? </p><p> </p><p>So only the wealthy play on sports teams? I always feel like we are going broke paying for my daughter's soccer, and the basketball for my youngest, so I understand - heck the SHOES cost a FORTUNE for soccer for my daughter! I just think it is interesting because here we get lots of pressure to have even very young kids play sports - my daughter started playing at age 4. She flat out LOVES it, but hasn't played much the last few years because injuries. She does a lot of other stuff. (In fact, if your daughter would like an English Speaking penpal, Jess would enjoy emailing her - she has been talking about finding a pen pal, she is a bit lonesome lately since we restarted homeschooling her). </p><p> </p><p>Some people just don't "blossom" socially in their teens. I am sure I was quite the challenge (in so many many ways) to my parents when I was a teen. I really wasn't very social, but I became much more outgoing once I got older. She may just need to grow up a bit. What kinds of groups are kids involved in after age 16 or even age 20?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 213171, member: 1233"] I am fascinated by the glimpse into your culture, and esp by the idea that if a child doesn't drink then they won't have friends. Here in the US the legal age to drink or buy alcohol is 21. You can legally allow your own child to have it in your own home, but most states, if not all, prohibit you from allowing other people's kids to drink. In some states you can let your child have a sip of your drink at a restaurant, but not all states by any means. And if the social workers find out you ahve been letting your under 18yo child drink Occupational Therapist (OT) get tipsy or drunk there are chances you can lose custody of htem. I think, overall, it is a wiser theory to teach children their limits. But we have a genetic risk of alcoholism in MANY MANY families, and you never know which child has the gene (my bro does, I do not - he is a recovering alcoholic and I have never really had a problem with getting drunk or with stopping once I have started - actually I rarely drink because so few alcohols taste good to me, the ones that do are REALLY expensive, LOL!). So they want you to send your daughter to a reform school for juvenile criminals because she doesn't want to drink? Sounds like something I would not be in favor of, but I don't know what is or isn't the norm there. Is it only because you are not danish that you have this social worker in your lives, or does every family have one? So only the wealthy play on sports teams? I always feel like we are going broke paying for my daughter's soccer, and the basketball for my youngest, so I understand - heck the SHOES cost a FORTUNE for soccer for my daughter! I just think it is interesting because here we get lots of pressure to have even very young kids play sports - my daughter started playing at age 4. She flat out LOVES it, but hasn't played much the last few years because injuries. She does a lot of other stuff. (In fact, if your daughter would like an English Speaking penpal, Jess would enjoy emailing her - she has been talking about finding a pen pal, she is a bit lonesome lately since we restarted homeschooling her). Some people just don't "blossom" socially in their teens. I am sure I was quite the challenge (in so many many ways) to my parents when I was a teen. I really wasn't very social, but I became much more outgoing once I got older. She may just need to grow up a bit. What kinds of groups are kids involved in after age 16 or even age 20? [/QUOTE]
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