Remember, this is Small Town, USA here. "Scarecrow" sent a public message to wee difficult child's gym teacher saying she was excited to gain 2 new sons and a grandson when she marries DEX. Wee difficult child's gym teacher is one of the people "in difficult child's corner" at school. They use her as a "safe spot" for him. I don't think the gym teacher and "scarecrow" are particularly friendly, but her reply to Scarecrow, saying how wonderful it was for her to have gained a son-in-law, is a little disturbing in light of the fact that she knows nothing of the conflict surrounding the "kids" she's excited to gain. I wouldn't care, except I'd hate to see the gym teacher encouraging this "gaining family" while we are working our tails off to discourage it. Should I say something to the gym teacher about what is going on and just ask her to tread lightly where the kiddos are concerned?