In working through difficult child's anger issues one question counselors always ask is... Is there a place in the house where difficult child can go to calm down?
We have a decent sized home and there are plenty of places where difficult child could go to be alone BUT when difficult child is angry, he is also destructive. We have been using his room as a place he can go to calm down but this has resulted in broken items, torn up books, ripped up clothing, stuff being thrown over the staircase. He pounds on things and kicks stuff. Knocks pictures off the wall, pulls down curtains, slams doors repeatedly, etc... Obviously this is not the safest or most ideal way to burn off his agression. So we have gradually removed items from his room to keep them from getting destroyed. This weekend difficult child had a very unstable day and trashed his room repeatedly to the point where he was taking out his dresser drawers and throwing them. So finally we decided to remove everything that has the potential to be a safety issue. We took the doors off and the shelves out, we removed the TV, the dresser, the bunkbeds. He now has a room which consists of a mattress, pillow, bedding, and stuffed animals. He has blinds on the windows for privacy but no curtains and no pictures on the wall. The room is decoratively painted and with his bedding and animals, it still looks cozy but with the exception of the windows (which have not been problem so far), his room is pretty much rage proof.
I'm wondering if any of you have a specific area in the home designated as a place for difficult child to go to calm down? If so, has this been successful?
Thanks for your input,
Christy
We have a decent sized home and there are plenty of places where difficult child could go to be alone BUT when difficult child is angry, he is also destructive. We have been using his room as a place he can go to calm down but this has resulted in broken items, torn up books, ripped up clothing, stuff being thrown over the staircase. He pounds on things and kicks stuff. Knocks pictures off the wall, pulls down curtains, slams doors repeatedly, etc... Obviously this is not the safest or most ideal way to burn off his agression. So we have gradually removed items from his room to keep them from getting destroyed. This weekend difficult child had a very unstable day and trashed his room repeatedly to the point where he was taking out his dresser drawers and throwing them. So finally we decided to remove everything that has the potential to be a safety issue. We took the doors off and the shelves out, we removed the TV, the dresser, the bunkbeds. He now has a room which consists of a mattress, pillow, bedding, and stuffed animals. He has blinds on the windows for privacy but no curtains and no pictures on the wall. The room is decoratively painted and with his bedding and animals, it still looks cozy but with the exception of the windows (which have not been problem so far), his room is pretty much rage proof.
I'm wondering if any of you have a specific area in the home designated as a place for difficult child to go to calm down? If so, has this been successful?
Thanks for your input,
Christy