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a small upate My difficult child still in Canada with her internet boyfriend
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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 601375" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>You've gotten excellent advice! Your daughter is 19 and made some big decisions. I think you are very wise to come here for support while you allow your daughter to learn and grow. As a mom, it kills us not to make everything okay for our kids. Your daughter will be a better person for figuring this out for herself.</p><p></p><p>Your post about your daughter reminded me of a "learning experience" I had when I was about her age.</p><p>I was in no way a difficult child. I married young at 19 yrs. old and my husband and I moved moved to California from small town Kansas. Our first year there was financially very difficult for us. I remember tax time came around and we owed what seemed to be a small fortune. We didn't have the money to pay our taxes and we were very afraid of the I.R.S. so I called my parents and asked for a loan. I was raised to be a responsible hard worker. I was taught that I would be responsible for my actions good and bad. Calling and asking for a loan was the last thing I wanted to do, but I felt I had no other choice. My mother told me no! Not in a mean, uncaring way, but in a factual way. She told me sorry, they didn't have that kind of cash sitting around. I can remember being SO, SO shocked and terribly hurt, that my own mother would not help us out! I honestly think I was in a little bit of shock with that realization too. lol Guess what? My husband and I figured a way to pay what we owed AND more importantly, we learned that we had to figure our lives out, nobody was going to rescue us. What a valuable life lesson my parents allowed us to learn!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 601375, member: 30"] You've gotten excellent advice! Your daughter is 19 and made some big decisions. I think you are very wise to come here for support while you allow your daughter to learn and grow. As a mom, it kills us not to make everything okay for our kids. Your daughter will be a better person for figuring this out for herself. Your post about your daughter reminded me of a "learning experience" I had when I was about her age. I was in no way a difficult child. I married young at 19 yrs. old and my husband and I moved moved to California from small town Kansas. Our first year there was financially very difficult for us. I remember tax time came around and we owed what seemed to be a small fortune. We didn't have the money to pay our taxes and we were very afraid of the I.R.S. so I called my parents and asked for a loan. I was raised to be a responsible hard worker. I was taught that I would be responsible for my actions good and bad. Calling and asking for a loan was the last thing I wanted to do, but I felt I had no other choice. My mother told me no! Not in a mean, uncaring way, but in a factual way. She told me sorry, they didn't have that kind of cash sitting around. I can remember being SO, SO shocked and terribly hurt, that my own mother would not help us out! I honestly think I was in a little bit of shock with that realization too. lol Guess what? My husband and I figured a way to pay what we owed AND more importantly, we learned that we had to figure our lives out, nobody was going to rescue us. What a valuable life lesson my parents allowed us to learn! [/QUOTE]
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