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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 338064" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>In the absence of anything else useful, at least do that.</p><p></p><p>I do agree though - "keep doing what you are doing" is clearly NOT working. Can you go back to this guy and make it clear that it looks as if "keep doing what you are doing" is only making things worse? I sometimes have found that even where I've had to deal with idiots or ruse ratbags of doctors, if I feed back on the outcome of their idiocy and then give them an alternative direction in which to jump, they do tend to take tat alternative.</p><p>For example, difficult child 3 at age 2 saw a local (idiot) doctor. I was concerned about an increasingly harsh cough in difficult child 3 during cold, dry winter weather. He was also developing a fever. The doctor said, "He fever's not up enough to need antibiotics. Just give him a cough suppressant from the chemist's and take him home."</p><p>I actually asked, "Can you please write up an order for a nebuliser? I am concerned this could be croup developing."</p><p>I got told to stop being an over-anxious parent and take the poor kid home (this doctor kept pushing the line that I was Munchhausen's by proxy - flamin' idiot!)</p><p></p><p>That night the cough had developed as I feared and we had to take difficult child 3 to hospital. They assessed his condition there and immediately ordered a nebuliser with salbutamol. I'd only asked for saline nebulising, which at that early stage could have been sufficient. THE HOSPITAL ordered the nebuliser, the HOSPITAL diagnosed croup.</p><p></p><p>Because our rules state that after a hospital intervention you must take the paperwork back to your GP, I was back in that doctor's rooms next day with the hospital report. The doctor groaned and said, "So you got your way after all?"</p><p>I let him have it. I told him to call the hospital and tell them off for letting an obviously mentally ill parent tell them what to write on their official paperwork. I then said a bit more calmly, "Now seriously - what do you think they will say to you? Now let's try this again - I said yesterday I was concerned tis was developing into croup. There is no way I could induce croup in this child. The hospital diagnosed what you said was not happening. OK, they saw him later in the night. But you were dismissive of me. I can accept that it was a simple mistake, why can't you? And now you can see that I was NOT making it up, can you perhaps change your opinion of me?"</p><p></p><p>I don't think he ever changed his opinion of me. But he at least admitted he had got it wrong, and he accepted that the croup as diagnosed by the hospital, was genuine. I did avoid having to consult with him after that, but he was a lot more careful about what he said to me after that, too. </p><p></p><p>The point it - I think giving feedback is important. Because if you never go back and he never hears anything more, then in his mind he made a good call. And we all know he did not.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 338064, member: 1991"] In the absence of anything else useful, at least do that. I do agree though - "keep doing what you are doing" is clearly NOT working. Can you go back to this guy and make it clear that it looks as if "keep doing what you are doing" is only making things worse? I sometimes have found that even where I've had to deal with idiots or ruse ratbags of doctors, if I feed back on the outcome of their idiocy and then give them an alternative direction in which to jump, they do tend to take tat alternative. For example, difficult child 3 at age 2 saw a local (idiot) doctor. I was concerned about an increasingly harsh cough in difficult child 3 during cold, dry winter weather. He was also developing a fever. The doctor said, "He fever's not up enough to need antibiotics. Just give him a cough suppressant from the chemist's and take him home." I actually asked, "Can you please write up an order for a nebuliser? I am concerned this could be croup developing." I got told to stop being an over-anxious parent and take the poor kid home (this doctor kept pushing the line that I was Munchhausen's by proxy - flamin' idiot!) That night the cough had developed as I feared and we had to take difficult child 3 to hospital. They assessed his condition there and immediately ordered a nebuliser with salbutamol. I'd only asked for saline nebulising, which at that early stage could have been sufficient. THE HOSPITAL ordered the nebuliser, the HOSPITAL diagnosed croup. Because our rules state that after a hospital intervention you must take the paperwork back to your GP, I was back in that doctor's rooms next day with the hospital report. The doctor groaned and said, "So you got your way after all?" I let him have it. I told him to call the hospital and tell them off for letting an obviously mentally ill parent tell them what to write on their official paperwork. I then said a bit more calmly, "Now seriously - what do you think they will say to you? Now let's try this again - I said yesterday I was concerned tis was developing into croup. There is no way I could induce croup in this child. The hospital diagnosed what you said was not happening. OK, they saw him later in the night. But you were dismissive of me. I can accept that it was a simple mistake, why can't you? And now you can see that I was NOT making it up, can you perhaps change your opinion of me?" I don't think he ever changed his opinion of me. But he at least admitted he had got it wrong, and he accepted that the croup as diagnosed by the hospital, was genuine. I did avoid having to consult with him after that, but he was a lot more careful about what he said to me after that, too. The point it - I think giving feedback is important. Because if you never go back and he never hears anything more, then in his mind he made a good call. And we all know he did not. Marg [/QUOTE]
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