My new therapist & I have spent a great deal of time discussing all the tweedles issues; how it affects me & my emotional & physical well being. I told her about detaching - pulling back emotionally from the antics & letting consequences help kt & wm learn. She asked me a very pertinent question. "What do you do after all that detachment? Where do you go with those pent up emotions?" I had to think hard & long about this. I'm good at detaching - I don't know what to do with the harsh & negative emotions after all that's gone on with kt & wm over the last 9 going on 10 years. We are working out different scenarios including not detaching so much - showing kt & wm that I'm human & have feelings but not to the point where it leaves me vulnerable. So, where do you go with all those detached moments? All those emotions you shove down to remain detached when dealing with rages, meltdowns, hospitalizations, Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placements & the like?