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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 640613" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>I did the same about three weeks ago when my long lost difficult child turned up in jail for domestic violence, the fight was with the same girlie he had put in jail for domestic violence three years ago.</p><p></p><p>I found out accidently that he was back in Fl and was arrested, he did speak to son in law and asked him to get a message to girlie. She was the one that had him arrested (not that I blame her if there was violence) and then he is concerned because she won't take his collect calls! sister in law did give her the message, so now girlie is leaving them harassing phone messages. <em>sigh</em>, sister in law has a good heart and he was only trying to help.</p><p></p><p>Looking back on the pain and drama that was my daily life, I choose not to go back there. I have not contacted my difficult child. He is also a 'give an inch and he thinks he has won and expects things to go back to my enabling day'. </p><p></p><p>When my difficult child is released he will be homeless again, not a penny to his name, prefers to sleep in the woods rather than go to a homeless shelter and I don't feel the overwhelming dread I felt before. These are the same circumstances of three years ago. He's back to square one, only three years older! I am also three years older, but I have learned from my enabling mistakes.</p><p></p><p>I feel very deep in my bones, if I ever let my difficult child spend even one night I would never get him to leave. I'm happy for you, having the strength to say no and not be pulled backwards. You and hubby deserve it!</p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 640613, member: 13558"] I did the same about three weeks ago when my long lost difficult child turned up in jail for domestic violence, the fight was with the same girlie he had put in jail for domestic violence three years ago. I found out accidently that he was back in Fl and was arrested, he did speak to son in law and asked him to get a message to girlie. She was the one that had him arrested (not that I blame her if there was violence) and then he is concerned because she won't take his collect calls! sister in law did give her the message, so now girlie is leaving them harassing phone messages. [I]sigh[/I], sister in law has a good heart and he was only trying to help. Looking back on the pain and drama that was my daily life, I choose not to go back there. I have not contacted my difficult child. He is also a 'give an inch and he thinks he has won and expects things to go back to my enabling day'. When my difficult child is released he will be homeless again, not a penny to his name, prefers to sleep in the woods rather than go to a homeless shelter and I don't feel the overwhelming dread I felt before. These are the same circumstances of three years ago. He's back to square one, only three years older! I am also three years older, but I have learned from my enabling mistakes. I feel very deep in my bones, if I ever let my difficult child spend even one night I would never get him to leave. I'm happy for you, having the strength to say no and not be pulled backwards. You and hubby deserve it! (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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