Things have been actually pretty mellow this week, I have had some pretty profound realizations this week in that I realized boyfriend most likely has adhd himself, the constant losing things, he can forget something two minutes later, unfinished projects, no patience in lines or driving, and he has to constantly be fidgeting even when sitting. So at our house, I have decided to use a dry erase board again. I had abandoned this idea a while back, because I thought it was too controlling but it works for us and it's the only way I can get things done and not constantly nag him, which i feel would be more detrimental to our relationship.I also use a bin with a lid on the main floor, if they forget something it goes in the bin. This works well in our home. Wink..boyfriend thought I wouldn't put his things in the bin if he left them out, but I do not single anyone out. I also told boyfriend Tuesday if there is food in his youngest boy's room, he will have a message on the board and he needs to take care of it right away, not tell him and then forget. He needs to physically go up there and watch him do it. I feel a lot better this week though, knowing that all the boyfriend and his sons do is not on purpose that their brains are just different and they literally can't focus much of the time enough to remember to turn out the lights, put away the bread, remember their keys or homework,etc. I'm trying to have more compassion and acceptance for them all, I know that much of the time they are truly making a effort to do the best they can do. I felt sad for a minute knowing that I didn't know, and I expected more out of them than they are able to do. I always thought that since they are so intelligent that they couldn't have anything wrong. His older son has fallen behind in his classes, I told boyfriend months ago if he doesn't graduate on time, I want him to move in with his Mom or begin to pay me rent. I am still going to stick with this, because the boy is working a job. For myself, I'm making sure to take me time, I'm not letting the small stuff bother me..if a light is left on or something is left out, it's not the end of the world. I hold out hope that at some point boyfriend will get at least himself and his younger son help, but I know that it might not happen so for now I'm taking it one day at a time, staying centered and mellow, and enjoying my boyfriend for once and accepting him as he is not for who I want him to be.