Unfortunately, I'm very biased because I live in IL and suspect that the mother got what most of us with- adult family members with disabilities get in terms of meaningful support services from the state - and that's
nothing. The mom has another child with disabilities as well. I'm not excusing what she did - it would be a very cold day in Hades before I could do something like that. I was curious as to why she picked TN until I read the article I linked to - mom had done the research and picked a state that she felt would provide services to her daughter.
Illinois is in bad shape and getting worse. The grant program that paid for thank you's treatment has appeared to, in practice at least, adopted a policy of denying services, discharging kids from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with- no notice and no discharge plans, and community services are few and far between (we never had access to them). Multiple facilities, both for mental health and developmental disabilities, have been shut down in the past year. They're now
cutting services for technology dependent (i.e. ventilators) kids and kids like Boo who qualified for home services based on the fact they require essentially 24/7 care (a waiver program like Katie Beckett that has only been in effect for a few years - after Boo was too old). They're closing facilities to save money, yet they're not replacing those facilities with any community supports whatsoever. We've got severely mentally ill patients who are languishing in ERs for days on end because there are no psychiatric beds. I shudder to think what is going on in the daughter community because those folks can be hidden. There is no safety net for adults with- daughter or their families. husband and I are fortunate in that we've managed to continue to care for Boo - but we are getting older and I get ill thinking about what happens when we're too old/sick/dead to care for him. The plan for now is to get the heck out of IL ASAP, but that's at least another 20 years.... Being 70 years old and changing my 43-year-old son's diapers is going to be difficult physically, and I know the state will not support us at all.
I don't agree with- what she did, but I understand she felt she had no option. Given the number of stories I read each year about parents/caretakers neglecting daughter kids/adults to death, I think her actions were at least done with the intention to ensure her daughter was cared for. And I don't believe for a second that she had any other option, at least not here.
Rather than condemning this woman, I think the discussion needs to be if states have any intention of supporting their most vulnerable citizens. In my very biased opinion, IL has made it extremely clear that they have absolutely no such intention.