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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 686237" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am happy for him and for you and D H.</p><p></p><p>It is hard for me when my son starts something "good," at my prompting, to not feel the thing to be about me, wanting to make sure he succeeds.</p><p></p><p>Motivation he has in spades to go to a distant city where there is a dispensary, to get his marijuana. And he begins to groom us with lies that only he believes, about why he must go on the first of the month to the City (when SSI check arrives.)</p><p></p><p>We are helping him with a place to stay, etc. The condition is that he "work" helping us remodel the house and to work at something constructive. Is this wrong?</p><p></p><p>The one other thing he seems to be motivated to do besides getting his marijuana, as much as he can, is to not be homeless again. It is the only leverage we seem to have.</p><p></p><p>So we are pushing him to meet our conditions, and so far, he is doing it (more or less). He seems happier and stronger. But still, at the bottom of it all, it is us who are providing the lion's share of the "push."</p><p>The problem I have is that I know that to a large extent the goals that are in the picture are as much mine as my son's.</p><p></p><p>This is so hard. Thank you Darkwing for being here. It is helpful. I admire you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 686237, member: 18958"] I am happy for him and for you and D H. It is hard for me when my son starts something "good," at my prompting, to not feel the thing to be about me, wanting to make sure he succeeds. Motivation he has in spades to go to a distant city where there is a dispensary, to get his marijuana. And he begins to groom us with lies that only he believes, about why he must go on the first of the month to the City (when SSI check arrives.) We are helping him with a place to stay, etc. The condition is that he "work" helping us remodel the house and to work at something constructive. Is this wrong? The one other thing he seems to be motivated to do besides getting his marijuana, as much as he can, is to not be homeless again. It is the only leverage we seem to have. So we are pushing him to meet our conditions, and so far, he is doing it (more or less). He seems happier and stronger. But still, at the bottom of it all, it is us who are providing the lion's share of the "push." The problem I have is that I know that to a large extent the goals that are in the picture are as much mine as my son's. This is so hard. Thank you Darkwing for being here. It is helpful. I admire you. [/QUOTE]
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