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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 727642" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>LBL, I have been following along. I am sorry for the stress you are under, it is a difficult place to be to watch a train wreck slowly unfold before your eyes and not be able to stop it.</p><p>The big difference in my situation with my two, is that at your sons age, they were “flying under the radar.” Able to dabble in the partying lifestyle without repercussion from authorities. With exception, when CPS got involved and we had our grands, then, Tornado and Volcano were forced to go to counseling and rehab.</p><p>There is a lot to what Copa is saying. We can’t want for our d cs more than they want for themselves. I am not saying that we give up on our hopes and dreams for them, it’s a realization that they will choose the process. We look on horrified, projecting and writing the end of their stories, but we really <em>must all travel our own paths.</em></p><p>It seems your son is not thinking much into his future,<em> to state the obvious,</em> which is typical for a lot of kids his age, unfortunately. He won’t feel it, until consequences smack him upside his head, pardon the expression. All of your anxiety, fretting and worry, will not stop him from choosing as he does.</p><p>My point is, that he is faced with these choices, tow the line, go to rehab, continue as is and go to jail. Whatever the case may be, it is a huge life shaking wake up call, at an early age where the enormity of it may just force him to decide to pivot.</p><p>I truly hope so.</p><p>The undeniable fact is that no matter what we say, or how we feel, our d cs will do what they want. My two and your son have demonstrated this.</p><p>You have worked so hard to offer him the chance to grab at the golden ring, and do better. No one can say that you didn’t wholeheartedly give your all to help him choose better for himself.</p><p>It is hard, but try to be especially kind to yourself, deflect the natural inclination to despair over his choices and consequences, try to shift your focus to taking care of......you.</p><p>You matter, your health and well being matters.</p><p>My heart goes out to you during this time of waiting. It must be incredibly stressful. Lean upon what you have in your toolbox, and the strides you have made towards finding peace for you and your husband. You are strong and wise, and will find your way through this, I just know it.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 727642, member: 19522"] LBL, I have been following along. I am sorry for the stress you are under, it is a difficult place to be to watch a train wreck slowly unfold before your eyes and not be able to stop it. The big difference in my situation with my two, is that at your sons age, they were “flying under the radar.” Able to dabble in the partying lifestyle without repercussion from authorities. With exception, when CPS got involved and we had our grands, then, Tornado and Volcano were forced to go to counseling and rehab. There is a lot to what Copa is saying. We can’t want for our d cs more than they want for themselves. I am not saying that we give up on our hopes and dreams for them, it’s a realization that they will choose the process. We look on horrified, projecting and writing the end of their stories, but we really [I]must all travel our own paths.[/I] It seems your son is not thinking much into his future,[I] to state the obvious,[/I] which is typical for a lot of kids his age, unfortunately. He won’t feel it, until consequences smack him upside his head, pardon the expression. All of your anxiety, fretting and worry, will not stop him from choosing as he does. My point is, that he is faced with these choices, tow the line, go to rehab, continue as is and go to jail. Whatever the case may be, it is a huge life shaking wake up call, at an early age where the enormity of it may just force him to decide to pivot. I truly hope so. The undeniable fact is that no matter what we say, or how we feel, our d cs will do what they want. My two and your son have demonstrated this. You have worked so hard to offer him the chance to grab at the golden ring, and do better. No one can say that you didn’t wholeheartedly give your all to help him choose better for himself. It is hard, but try to be especially kind to yourself, deflect the natural inclination to despair over his choices and consequences, try to shift your focus to taking care of......you. You matter, your health and well being matters. My heart goes out to you during this time of waiting. It must be incredibly stressful. Lean upon what you have in your toolbox, and the strides you have made towards finding peace for you and your husband. You are strong and wise, and will find your way through this, I just know it. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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