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A Week of Doctors Appts coming up - FINALLY!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 547004" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Thanks for your support everyone. </p><p></p><p>Pasajes - The age here is 12 for all medical. He can refuse any treatment, therapy, dr.'s appts. at this stage. He knows that if he refuses to go that he will have to find somewhere else to live for a full 6 months. Our family counsellor told husband and I that if he had to leave again not to allow our house to be a revolving door and to make sure he stayed gone for 6 months so he could actually learn something from it after wearing out his welcome on everyone's couch. Tough tough decision but it may have to be done. He can't continue to live here if he refuses to try and make some progress. This is tearing our family up. We used to have a very happy, peaceful home. We enjoyed each others company, played games, had great vacations together, worked well together. Don't get me wrong - we weren't the Brady Bunch or the Cleavers but we had it good. We got along well, sometimes husband and I would argue, sometimes we'd get angry with the kids but until this past year things were really good. </p><p></p><p>Suzir - He does seem to be cycling. He ramped up last winter with anger and rebellion stuff to the point where he moved out for 6 weeks. Then things came crashing down on him and he got really depressed for a while. Then for about 2/3 weeks he seem to be somewhat level with only 1 major outburst. Now he seems to be ramping up again. Drinking, smoking, being promiscuous, cutting again - having meltdowns on me. </p><p></p><p>He is very smart so he realizes that there is something wrong but how hard can that be to admit, especially when you are ramped up and so angry. I think he wants help but also doesn't want to admit how much damage he has caused. His father is fed up with everything and doesn't see how medication could stop him from behaving in this manner. I have tried to explain to him that it could be impulse control issues with the ADHD rearing it's head, it could be Aspergers making him think differently than we do, it could be bipolar. All things that can possibly be helped with some medication. This is not going to be an easy road and I don't expect a perfect diagnosis or perfect medications on the first visit but I am hopeful that something will be able to help the situation and start moving us in the right direction. </p><p></p><p>He did not come home again last night. Stayed at his friends house who is 19 years old. This is the kid whose party he went to with the possible stolen bottle of whiskey - seems like a nice kid but he is also 19 and of legal age to drink. The mother allowed all these kids to drink in her home and had her bathroom door torn off. I don't feel the least bit of sympathy for her. </p><p></p><p>I am thinking I will likely have to go and find him in order to get him to that appointment today. Sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 547004, member: 14356"] Thanks for your support everyone. Pasajes - The age here is 12 for all medical. He can refuse any treatment, therapy, dr.'s appts. at this stage. He knows that if he refuses to go that he will have to find somewhere else to live for a full 6 months. Our family counsellor told husband and I that if he had to leave again not to allow our house to be a revolving door and to make sure he stayed gone for 6 months so he could actually learn something from it after wearing out his welcome on everyone's couch. Tough tough decision but it may have to be done. He can't continue to live here if he refuses to try and make some progress. This is tearing our family up. We used to have a very happy, peaceful home. We enjoyed each others company, played games, had great vacations together, worked well together. Don't get me wrong - we weren't the Brady Bunch or the Cleavers but we had it good. We got along well, sometimes husband and I would argue, sometimes we'd get angry with the kids but until this past year things were really good. Suzir - He does seem to be cycling. He ramped up last winter with anger and rebellion stuff to the point where he moved out for 6 weeks. Then things came crashing down on him and he got really depressed for a while. Then for about 2/3 weeks he seem to be somewhat level with only 1 major outburst. Now he seems to be ramping up again. Drinking, smoking, being promiscuous, cutting again - having meltdowns on me. He is very smart so he realizes that there is something wrong but how hard can that be to admit, especially when you are ramped up and so angry. I think he wants help but also doesn't want to admit how much damage he has caused. His father is fed up with everything and doesn't see how medication could stop him from behaving in this manner. I have tried to explain to him that it could be impulse control issues with the ADHD rearing it's head, it could be Aspergers making him think differently than we do, it could be bipolar. All things that can possibly be helped with some medication. This is not going to be an easy road and I don't expect a perfect diagnosis or perfect medications on the first visit but I am hopeful that something will be able to help the situation and start moving us in the right direction. He did not come home again last night. Stayed at his friends house who is 19 years old. This is the kid whose party he went to with the possible stolen bottle of whiskey - seems like a nice kid but he is also 19 and of legal age to drink. The mother allowed all these kids to drink in her home and had her bathroom door torn off. I don't feel the least bit of sympathy for her. I am thinking I will likely have to go and find him in order to get him to that appointment today. Sigh. [/QUOTE]
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