mstang67chic
Going Green
There are times when I absolutely cannot stand to hear difficult child breathe let alone speak. Right now....I'm deep in the middle of one of those times. It's kind of stupid actually because it isn't really caused by anything new....it's just the same old, same old and usually relatively minor things.
His mouth lately....omg. EVERY little thing out of it is said in this snippy, superior tone, anything husband or I say is met with a "you're a total idiot" shake of his head and attitude.
He asked if I would take him and his cousin D to the Y for open swim. That wasn't a problem...yeah he's been a bit mouth but he really needs to get out of the house for both our sakes so I took them. We picked D up and on the way to the Y, D asked difficult child why he had an eraser on his ear. Turns out, difficult child lost the back to his earring and used an eraser chunk. I told difficult child in a normal tone of voice that he'll want to take it out before getting in the pool. He said it would be fine and I assumed he meant his ear. I explained that if the earring came of while he was swimming, it could damage the filter and he should really take it out. He has this head shake (mentioned earlier) that he does when we tell him something he thinks is incredibly stupid and that's what I got. That was it....I'd had it. I pulled over to the side of the road and while I didn't YELL, I lit into him pretty good. I basically said that I was so sick of this "you are a total idiot" attitude when I (or husband for that matter) tells him something and that I've had it. We don't tell him these things to hear ourselves talk...blah blah blah blah blah. You know that speech, right?
Yesterday I went off on him because he shut one of the dog's tails in his door. I know he didn't mean to but it WAS his own fault. I heard him giving the dogs some of his food (which I remind him NOT to on a daily basis) so I was herding the dogs out. He went to close his door but wasn't paying the least bit of attention and before I could get one word out, the door was shut on Cloe's tail. I. WENT. OFF. Of course I got a lot of "it wasn't my fault", "it was an accident", "I didn't have my glasses on ......it's dark...." Yeah well PAY ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!! On my part it was an overreaction but at the same time, he just didn't understand how HE could have done anything different.
I swear...there are times when I think he is INTENTIONALLY stupid. To be anything else or actually be aware of his surroundings would take some EFFORT on his part and he doesn't do that. But then....it's NEVER his fault. Ever. I've dealt with this bull for so many years that I've turned in to the raving banshee because I've had it. I refuse to be patient with someone who refuses to try. I refuse to do more than what is absolutely necessary. I'm done.
*sigh*
If you made it through my insane, PMS filled ravings...you're either really good or really bored. Either way, thanks!
(And the next group get together? Let's make it for a week, shall we?
)
His mouth lately....omg. EVERY little thing out of it is said in this snippy, superior tone, anything husband or I say is met with a "you're a total idiot" shake of his head and attitude.
He asked if I would take him and his cousin D to the Y for open swim. That wasn't a problem...yeah he's been a bit mouth but he really needs to get out of the house for both our sakes so I took them. We picked D up and on the way to the Y, D asked difficult child why he had an eraser on his ear. Turns out, difficult child lost the back to his earring and used an eraser chunk. I told difficult child in a normal tone of voice that he'll want to take it out before getting in the pool. He said it would be fine and I assumed he meant his ear. I explained that if the earring came of while he was swimming, it could damage the filter and he should really take it out. He has this head shake (mentioned earlier) that he does when we tell him something he thinks is incredibly stupid and that's what I got. That was it....I'd had it. I pulled over to the side of the road and while I didn't YELL, I lit into him pretty good. I basically said that I was so sick of this "you are a total idiot" attitude when I (or husband for that matter) tells him something and that I've had it. We don't tell him these things to hear ourselves talk...blah blah blah blah blah. You know that speech, right?
Yesterday I went off on him because he shut one of the dog's tails in his door. I know he didn't mean to but it WAS his own fault. I heard him giving the dogs some of his food (which I remind him NOT to on a daily basis) so I was herding the dogs out. He went to close his door but wasn't paying the least bit of attention and before I could get one word out, the door was shut on Cloe's tail. I. WENT. OFF. Of course I got a lot of "it wasn't my fault", "it was an accident", "I didn't have my glasses on ......it's dark...." Yeah well PAY ATTENTION!!!!!!!!!!!! On my part it was an overreaction but at the same time, he just didn't understand how HE could have done anything different.
I swear...there are times when I think he is INTENTIONALLY stupid. To be anything else or actually be aware of his surroundings would take some EFFORT on his part and he doesn't do that. But then....it's NEVER his fault. Ever. I've dealt with this bull for so many years that I've turned in to the raving banshee because I've had it. I refuse to be patient with someone who refuses to try. I refuse to do more than what is absolutely necessary. I'm done.
*sigh*
If you made it through my insane, PMS filled ravings...you're either really good or really bored. Either way, thanks!
(And the next group get together? Let's make it for a week, shall we?
)
I think I read somewhere that parents can count on that mentality to stick around until the kids are in their early 20's. 
