Thanks for all the support and encouragement. At the meeting today, the school staff was willing to work with me......TO A POINT. What it boiled down to was "what should the consequences be when he leaves the classroom without permission?" Yes, there is a para watching him when he leaves so they know he leaves to find a quiet spot to calm down. They don't like his choices of spots (and the one he used for the first 3 days is no longer available). I told them that he doesn't trust them yet to tell them what is going on and their response was "we don't have evough time in the school year for that". WTH?? As a consequence for leaving the room without permission is to take away band or gym time. Like that's going to work. They also informed me they don't have a contract with an Occupational Therapist (OT) so they aren't sure how they are going to meet is sensory needs. I have provided them with some of his fidgets but they are locked in a drawer because he "used them inappropriately" when he was at his most stressed and they pushed him past his limits. They even went so far as to "push" for a behavioral setting until he gets his behavioral issues under control. If they would quit changing things on him or warn them about the changes ahead of time and if they would ask him what's going on and get him to trust they actually care about him, none of it would happen. I am so frustrated and confused and stressed and.....and....and.