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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 56125" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Kathy, I agree with you 100%. </p><p></p><p>I dont think it is infantilizing teens to ask them to contribute to the household. I think it is teaching them to stand on their own one day. How on earth are they going to know how to run their own homes if they dont learn it in our homes? </p><p></p><p>I wasnt taught how to cook or clean. I thought that clean clothes mysteriously appeared in my closet by the clean clothes fairy! Imagine my surprise when I was on my own with a baby no less and the dirty clothes I threw on the floor didnt magically jump up and put themselves back in the drawers!!!! I was dumbfounded. My mother did me no favors.</p><p></p><p>You mean to tell me that just because you have checks left you cant still write them if there is no money in the bank? HUH???? How was I supposed to know that? No one told me! </p><p></p><p>You can bet your bottom dollar I told my kids. They also learned to cook, clean, wash clothes, push a vacuum, mop a floor, buy groceries, plan meals for a week, and everything else it took to run a house. AND THEY ARE ALL BOYS! They did this from the time they were little. </p><p></p><p>Teens arent ready to go out on their own at 13 or 14 or 15. Thats why they need to have parents. We give them freedom with rudder to steer them. You let the rope out as they show more and more responsibility so that when they do leave home they are able to do so with the knowledge they are ready and have the skills needed to succeed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 56125, member: 1514"] Kathy, I agree with you 100%. I dont think it is infantilizing teens to ask them to contribute to the household. I think it is teaching them to stand on their own one day. How on earth are they going to know how to run their own homes if they dont learn it in our homes? I wasnt taught how to cook or clean. I thought that clean clothes mysteriously appeared in my closet by the clean clothes fairy! Imagine my surprise when I was on my own with a baby no less and the dirty clothes I threw on the floor didnt magically jump up and put themselves back in the drawers!!!! I was dumbfounded. My mother did me no favors. You mean to tell me that just because you have checks left you cant still write them if there is no money in the bank? HUH???? How was I supposed to know that? No one told me! You can bet your bottom dollar I told my kids. They also learned to cook, clean, wash clothes, push a vacuum, mop a floor, buy groceries, plan meals for a week, and everything else it took to run a house. AND THEY ARE ALL BOYS! They did this from the time they were little. Teens arent ready to go out on their own at 13 or 14 or 15. Thats why they need to have parents. We give them freedom with rudder to steer them. You let the rope out as they show more and more responsibility so that when they do leave home they are able to do so with the knowledge they are ready and have the skills needed to succeed. [/QUOTE]
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