I just got the return call from DSS about difficult child's child support that I have to go to court about to find out how much I'll have to pay each month while difficult child is incarcerated. I asked the lady if they ever went back to a father who lives out of state to get some CS from him, too, if paternity was never established. She said they were already going after him. I reminded her that paternity was never established and she said if he questioned it, then he could request the test and take it and prove it one way or another. I asked if they did more than just run an ad ini the paper to locate him and find him and she said yes- however since he dodged all legal efforts to make him pay CS on his daughter, I doubt they will ever get him on this. Still, I think this is a good thing. I told her I had a little info on him and she told me his CW's name and to fax it to her. Can I request/expect them to keep my contact info private and not give him that info? I guess once difficult child is home again, they will give him our address/phone number even if they don't have him in court yet, right? I'm a little afraid of him physically but more concerned about harassing phone calls and such. Should I tell difficult child this or wait to see if they can get the father into court? Really, I'd bet they'll set a court date and he just won't show up. Then what do they do? The lady also asked me if difficult child's father had ever been incarcerated before and I told her yes. How does that help them if the person isn't required to register and keep an address on file- like a sex offender would? I don't think he ever had to keep an address listed with the state for anything and his daughter is grown now so that CS issue is long past- unless they still go after a parent who never paid it to pay it in arrears.