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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 455466" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>My opinion?</p><p></p><p>The man is an abusive bully. Does he have a disorder? Eh, who knows, maybe or maybe not. But disorder or no disorder, he's a bully. A classic abuser who controls their victim with verbal abuse, keeping funds to themselves, and probably physical abuse thrown in when she doesn't cower properly from the verbal abuse. It's typical for an abuser to paint a public picture of the perfect couple/family. It's so the victims won't be believed when and if they find the courage to speak up. </p><p></p><p>Odds are your friend will pay for her night of respite.</p><p></p><p>I'd encourage her to talk with the staff of a nearby DV shelter. She doesn't have to go their to stay to use their services and to get help for herself. They'll never tell anyone she was there or that she called. </p><p></p><p>I rather not like to judge someone I've never met, but my best guess is he's about as depressed or bipolar as my left foot. He behaves the way he does because he <strong>can</strong>, because it works for him. She allows him to berate her and bully her and take her money and heaven knows what else while he's sleeping around and blowing money..........oh yeah, no change is gonna happen there. As far as reputation, who the hades gives a darn if you're that miserable day in and day out? This is not the 1940's. She doesn't have to put up with such treatment, nor should she. Her relationship with this "man" is no one's business except hers.</p><p></p><p>I'd go and collect pamphlets from the DV shelter if she's too scared to go and give them to her to read.......maybe when you take her to coffee or something. Probably wouldn't be too safe for her to have them in the house. </p><p></p><p>You're a great friend. Unfortunately though, she has to <strong>want</strong> to change her situation before it will change.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 455466, member: 84"] My opinion? The man is an abusive bully. Does he have a disorder? Eh, who knows, maybe or maybe not. But disorder or no disorder, he's a bully. A classic abuser who controls their victim with verbal abuse, keeping funds to themselves, and probably physical abuse thrown in when she doesn't cower properly from the verbal abuse. It's typical for an abuser to paint a public picture of the perfect couple/family. It's so the victims won't be believed when and if they find the courage to speak up. Odds are your friend will pay for her night of respite. I'd encourage her to talk with the staff of a nearby DV shelter. She doesn't have to go their to stay to use their services and to get help for herself. They'll never tell anyone she was there or that she called. I rather not like to judge someone I've never met, but my best guess is he's about as depressed or bipolar as my left foot. He behaves the way he does because he [B]can[/B], because it works for him. She allows him to berate her and bully her and take her money and heaven knows what else while he's sleeping around and blowing money..........oh yeah, no change is gonna happen there. As far as reputation, who the hades gives a darn if you're that miserable day in and day out? This is not the 1940's. She doesn't have to put up with such treatment, nor should she. Her relationship with this "man" is no one's business except hers. I'd go and collect pamphlets from the DV shelter if she's too scared to go and give them to her to read.......maybe when you take her to coffee or something. Probably wouldn't be too safe for her to have them in the house. You're a great friend. Unfortunately though, she has to [B]want[/B] to change her situation before it will change. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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