Hi, I have a four year old difficult child whoms only diagnosis so far is a global developmental delay and while he has not been diagnosed with ADHD, his pshycologist and I beleive he may have it as well. We are afraid that his learning is being greatly affected by this. However, he does not seem to be extreamly hyper the whole time he is awake he is hyper tho about 90% of the time. My 19 month old DS has a much better attention span than he does and can sit still and do legos and even scribble in a coloring book, stack blocks, all those that my difficult child cannot do because he cannot sit still long enough. He can't even be potty trained, he goes potty in the potty alot but only because I make him sit on it and he continues to stand up and I continue to sit him back down. I wouldn't even make him sit on the potty if it wasn't for hte fact that he takes off his diaper anyway when he needs to go no matter what I do and if I am not right there he will poop and pee all over the walls, floor, everywhere! So I feel like I have to sit him on the potty until he goes he doesn't get upset and even finally shows that he is happy and awards himself with applaud every time he uses the potty he just cannot quit standing up so often cause he forgets he is using the potty.(even while he is in the process he will stand up and begin to run off as if forgetting he is in middle of peeing or having a bm).My first thought was yes he has ADHD I do, my father does so of course that's what it is but now he is starting to whine ALL the time and SCREAM scream, why does he scream all the time, and hit himself in the face. Now I don't want him on ADHD medications cause it could be something more than ADHD affecting his learning in that case there may be no reason to medicate him if it's not going to have much asffect on his behavior, right? what do I do? The child pshycologist wants to put him on Tenex which it was my idea as much as it was his but I don't know if I want to anymore. He whines for ppl all the time. He is an army brat so yes he's had a rough time, daddy has been deployed for a year, in training for months at a time before, the army stationed us far from family so we don't even see family very often but we have been associated with the military for 3 years and have been away for 2 years but why does he still scream for his aunt? he screams for everyone, grandma when she lives with us! grandpa, and even the boy next door he has only met once and for a minumum of 3 minutes! He screams a bloody scream when daddy leaves to work each day, when he comes home and his brother is napping.
I really would like to know if anyone thinks that I should continue to put him on this medication. even with all these other symptoms and of course the fact that he is barley 4 years old. Also does anyone else have to deal with any of this?? there's no way I'm the only one with this issue, I can't take him out in public that often and if so we leave early...am I overreacting is this 'normal'? help!
The person he has seen is titled 'developmental-behavioural pediatrician chief'. He sees him through the EFMP (exceptional family member program). I will need to get a refferal before I send him to anyone else but I am sure I can do that, his pediatrician may be able to refer him to another professional. I have not read that book yet but I look forward to it. The testing he has done is developmetnal screening and blood test which ruled out a few common types of MR such as fragile x syndrome. And we have pretty much ruled out artisum. He also has an IEP as he is in a special preschool right now which Early Intervention passed him on to shorty after he turned 3. I will ask about neuropsychologist testing although I have heard of it I did not know they could do that with children under 5 and he just turned 4 a week ago but I will see, thank you all so much. I will also see about the comprehensive evaluation. Thanks. Like I said none of my aquaintences understand what I am going through and I cannot talk about any of this so this really helps. 
