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<blockquote data-quote="DS3" data-source="post: 467034" data-attributes="member: 12441"><p>I found this part to be the most inspirational. We are NOT bad parents. Yes we do need help, but as the quote states, we're often drawn into bad parenting styles because of our children. Heck we could even be drawn into it because parenting today isn't the same as parenting when we grew up. With more technology also means more isolation for new parents and parents of problematic children. As the saying goes, "It takes a village to raise a child" but in todays day and age, you just don't see that. You see new mothers basically being handed a new-born with no real coping skills on how to handle that said child. Often, we are so distracted by what is going on all around us that no one takes the time to help those who need it most. ~sigh~ Sorry, just been reading this book which really explains a lot to me and has helped me cope with some feelings that I have. It's titled "I'm Okay, You're a Brat!" (And yes, the author has children.) Great read for anyone interested. </p><p></p><p>SO back on topic (That's my ADHD talking there as I get off topic <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ) In today's day and age, the parents are often blamed. (going back to my book again) The truth is that parents have very little if any influence as to how their children grow up. Most influences come from the people they meet at school or outside of the house, their choices in decisions, etc., and at the very bottom of the totem pole ranks the parents. So we cannot blame the parents. Not if their involvement (no matter how much it may be) is ranked at the bottom of the list. I hate that the parents are blamed. Well we can influence some stuff, we cannot be accountable for their actions if they can comprehend the repercussions of their actions. It's not like they are robots. We can't program them to be such and such or to be have in a certain way. They are responsible for their own actions. </p><p></p><p>Ok. Think I'm done for now. Perhaps I can stay a little more focused later.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DS3, post: 467034, member: 12441"] I found this part to be the most inspirational. We are NOT bad parents. Yes we do need help, but as the quote states, we're often drawn into bad parenting styles because of our children. Heck we could even be drawn into it because parenting today isn't the same as parenting when we grew up. With more technology also means more isolation for new parents and parents of problematic children. As the saying goes, "It takes a village to raise a child" but in todays day and age, you just don't see that. You see new mothers basically being handed a new-born with no real coping skills on how to handle that said child. Often, we are so distracted by what is going on all around us that no one takes the time to help those who need it most. ~sigh~ Sorry, just been reading this book which really explains a lot to me and has helped me cope with some feelings that I have. It's titled "I'm Okay, You're a Brat!" (And yes, the author has children.) Great read for anyone interested. SO back on topic (That's my ADHD talking there as I get off topic :) ) In today's day and age, the parents are often blamed. (going back to my book again) The truth is that parents have very little if any influence as to how their children grow up. Most influences come from the people they meet at school or outside of the house, their choices in decisions, etc., and at the very bottom of the totem pole ranks the parents. So we cannot blame the parents. Not if their involvement (no matter how much it may be) is ranked at the bottom of the list. I hate that the parents are blamed. Well we can influence some stuff, we cannot be accountable for their actions if they can comprehend the repercussions of their actions. It's not like they are robots. We can't program them to be such and such or to be have in a certain way. They are responsible for their own actions. Ok. Think I'm done for now. Perhaps I can stay a little more focused later. [/QUOTE]
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