pepperidge
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Just wondering what those of you with adopted kids with substance abuse problems know about their birthparents history. Both of my adopted kids have major substance abuse in background of birthparents, and even birth grandparents. We didn't find out about one of kids' birth family histories until well after the adoption (I have discovered with both of my kids and two different adoption agencies that we were not given the whole truth, big surprise).
Anyway, it scares me alot to think about the mix of adoption issues plus whatever genetic predisposition their might be to substance abuse. I am kind of on the fence--do I really go to town and talk about the dangers they may have of substance abuse (some facts would be nice) or will that simply turn off teenagers and perhaps even add to whatever adoption issues they have, thinking that their birthparents were not exactly high functioning?
Or maybe no matter what you do nothing will make a difference.
Anyway, it scares me alot to think about the mix of adoption issues plus whatever genetic predisposition their might be to substance abuse. I am kind of on the fence--do I really go to town and talk about the dangers they may have of substance abuse (some facts would be nice) or will that simply turn off teenagers and perhaps even add to whatever adoption issues they have, thinking that their birthparents were not exactly high functioning?
Or maybe no matter what you do nothing will make a difference.