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Adopted Son's (8) behaviour is concerning. Where to next?
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 640023" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>In regard to lying, Aspies are horrible liars. Some of my son's lies have been laugh-out-loud funny. But most of them are obnoxious and make him untrustworthy. The bottom line is, he knows certain things are not acceptable but because of impulsiveness, and just being too much in his own head, so he does things anyway. Lying is a way to protect himself and his wants and wishes. Aspies tend to have anxiety. So he'll continue to lie until he finds that it's easier and less stressful to tell the truth. We had to accept a couple of big, hard truths from our son without punishing him, in order to get him to tell us the truth. It worked for a few yrs. Now he's back at it again. He's older and it's all about money, fast food, and cars. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> He's actually been pretty good about borrowing the car, all things considered. But he wants his own.</p><p>Speaking of fast food, we cut down on our son's rages by cutting out red dye, milk, cheese, and butter, and gluten. He works at McDonald's now and can eat whatever he wants at a discount, away from my prying eyes, so he's been grumpy and mean. After all the work we've put into his diet, it kills me to see him abuse his body like that. Soon enough, he'll develop anemia again and maybe that will force him to monitor himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 640023, member: 3419"] In regard to lying, Aspies are horrible liars. Some of my son's lies have been laugh-out-loud funny. But most of them are obnoxious and make him untrustworthy. The bottom line is, he knows certain things are not acceptable but because of impulsiveness, and just being too much in his own head, so he does things anyway. Lying is a way to protect himself and his wants and wishes. Aspies tend to have anxiety. So he'll continue to lie until he finds that it's easier and less stressful to tell the truth. We had to accept a couple of big, hard truths from our son without punishing him, in order to get him to tell us the truth. It worked for a few yrs. Now he's back at it again. He's older and it's all about money, fast food, and cars. :( He's actually been pretty good about borrowing the car, all things considered. But he wants his own. Speaking of fast food, we cut down on our son's rages by cutting out red dye, milk, cheese, and butter, and gluten. He works at McDonald's now and can eat whatever he wants at a discount, away from my prying eyes, so he's been grumpy and mean. After all the work we've put into his diet, it kills me to see him abuse his body like that. Soon enough, he'll develop anemia again and maybe that will force him to monitor himself. [/QUOTE]
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