AllStressedOut
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Well, we talked to all the boys about adopting my difficult children tonight. We haven't said anything because we wanted my difficult children to have time to heal some over the news of termination. Our attorney has been pushing for us to hurry up and go through the process because we'll be in front of the same judge and he doesn't like kids being in limbo.
It started on the way home from the music store with my oldest easy child. I asked how he would feel if I adopted my difficult children. He said he didn't see the difference between now and adoption, so he had no problems with it.
Then after dinner I took middle easy child and oldest easy child into my room and talked to middle easy child about it. I told oldest easy child he could break the news and he told middle easy child "I'm gay." Pre-teen joke I guess. Then since he was joking I told middle easy child "No, he's not gay, but the real news is, I'm not your mother." So we had thoroughly confused middle easy child at this point and then finally moved onto the real subject. He didn't have any problems either. He did ask "Does this mean I can punch them more?" Typical boy and just for the record, he isn't punching them now, but it's his way of teasing me/them.
So we went back to the dinner table where everyone else was still eating and middle easy child asked if he could tell everyone. I told him it wasn't a "tell" thing that he had to ask how they'd feel about it. So he started off by "How would you feel if Mommy got the piece of paper that allowed her to make decisions about you and....." Okay so I stopped him there and told him to use the word and then he said "How would you feel if Mommy adopted you?"
Well, my oldest difficult child said "Which one of us?" LMAO :rofl: I can pick? Whooo hooo! :dance: Okay, so I answered "All 3 of you." Well, middle difficult child was about to do a cheer in his seat, he squealed "YES!" Oldest difficult child said "Does that make you my real mom?" I said "That makes me your legal mom." He gave me two thumbs up. :thumb: :thumb: Then he asked "What about our other mom?" Well, husband and this time the D stands for "dumbbut*" says "She's gone." Uh, hello, WRONG ANSWER. So I asked difficult child "What about your other mom?" and he said "Well, can we still find her when we're 18." My reply was "It's better for you to wait until youngest difficult child is 18, but yes." Youngest difficult child didn't really seem to care about any of the conversation, but he said yes too.
I'm sure I'll be hearing more about this for the days/weeks to come. I'm glad it went well with easy child's, I was really sweating it. They don't always get along with the difficult child's and I was worried they would be strongly against it, but they didn't see a huge difference in what I am now and being their legal mother. :whew:
It started on the way home from the music store with my oldest easy child. I asked how he would feel if I adopted my difficult children. He said he didn't see the difference between now and adoption, so he had no problems with it.
Then after dinner I took middle easy child and oldest easy child into my room and talked to middle easy child about it. I told oldest easy child he could break the news and he told middle easy child "I'm gay." Pre-teen joke I guess. Then since he was joking I told middle easy child "No, he's not gay, but the real news is, I'm not your mother." So we had thoroughly confused middle easy child at this point and then finally moved onto the real subject. He didn't have any problems either. He did ask "Does this mean I can punch them more?" Typical boy and just for the record, he isn't punching them now, but it's his way of teasing me/them.
So we went back to the dinner table where everyone else was still eating and middle easy child asked if he could tell everyone. I told him it wasn't a "tell" thing that he had to ask how they'd feel about it. So he started off by "How would you feel if Mommy got the piece of paper that allowed her to make decisions about you and....." Okay so I stopped him there and told him to use the word and then he said "How would you feel if Mommy adopted you?"
Well, my oldest difficult child said "Which one of us?" LMAO :rofl: I can pick? Whooo hooo! :dance: Okay, so I answered "All 3 of you." Well, middle difficult child was about to do a cheer in his seat, he squealed "YES!" Oldest difficult child said "Does that make you my real mom?" I said "That makes me your legal mom." He gave me two thumbs up. :thumb: :thumb: Then he asked "What about our other mom?" Well, husband and this time the D stands for "dumbbut*" says "She's gone." Uh, hello, WRONG ANSWER. So I asked difficult child "What about your other mom?" and he said "Well, can we still find her when we're 18." My reply was "It's better for you to wait until youngest difficult child is 18, but yes." Youngest difficult child didn't really seem to care about any of the conversation, but he said yes too.
I'm sure I'll be hearing more about this for the days/weeks to come. I'm glad it went well with easy child's, I was really sweating it. They don't always get along with the difficult child's and I was worried they would be strongly against it, but they didn't see a huge difference in what I am now and being their legal mother. :whew:
