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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 581326" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>gsingjane, welcome. I'm so sorry you had to seek us out, but I am very glad that you were able to find us. Yes , your story is familiar to us, thankfully we find each other here in the midst of all the chaos our kids bring us. First of all let me support you in throwing the guilt overboard, you didn't create this and you can't control it or change it, only he can and he may not. You may want to read this blurb on sociopaths <a href="http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html" target="_blank">http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html\\\</a></p><p><a href="http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html" target="_blank"></a> <table style='width: 100%'><tr><td></td><td></td><td></td><td></td><td></td></tr></table><p>In addition, you might want to read the article at the bottom of my post on detachment, it's helpful. Yes, I believe you did the right thing, and really, the only thing you could do under the circumstances. Staying strong is what many of us here have to do on a daily basis, so you getting the support you need to do it, becomes a necessity too. If you aren't already, you might consider therapy for you and your husband to learn coping skills, get support for your decision, feel better about yourselves and go on with your lives. I personally needed a lot of support to detach from my daughter. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I believe you can be happy again. If you practice detachment you will land in acceptance, understanding that no matter what you do or don't do, you can't control another. All you can do is learn to respond differently and take care of yourself. Acceptance offers more peace of mind and once you attain that, joy once again becomes a part of your life. It's not an easy path, hence the support for you and your family, but learning to focus your attention on yourself and take it off of your son, is a giant step in your own serenity and health. </p><p></p><p>You've come to the right place, we certainly understand all your feelings. There is a lot of doubt and fear, the unknown is scary and detaching from our own child is quite difficult, but you can do it, you have to do it..............you've made all the right choices thus far, I applaud you for your courage and determination. Your son is a thief and a liar, this is not behavior you would accept from anyone else and you shouldn't accept it from him. I understand your feelings on calling the authorities, but keeping him away from you and your home is a good choice however you do that. At some point, if he does not abide by your wishes you may want to get a restraining order against him to keep him away. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it helps. We get it. Vent all you want. Get yourself some support. Stay strong in your resolve, you're doing the right thing. Many gentle hugs coming your way......................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 581326, member: 13542"] gsingjane, welcome. I'm so sorry you had to seek us out, but I am very glad that you were able to find us. Yes , your story is familiar to us, thankfully we find each other here in the midst of all the chaos our kids bring us. First of all let me support you in throwing the guilt overboard, you didn't create this and you can't control it or change it, only he can and he may not. You may want to read this blurb on sociopaths [URL="http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html"]http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-symptoms.html\\\ [/URL][TABLE="class: cf gz ac3"] [TR] [TD][/TD] [TD][/TD] [TD][/TD] [TD][/TD] [TD="class: io"][/TD] [/TR] [/TABLE] In addition, you might want to read the article at the bottom of my post on detachment, it's helpful. Yes, I believe you did the right thing, and really, the only thing you could do under the circumstances. Staying strong is what many of us here have to do on a daily basis, so you getting the support you need to do it, becomes a necessity too. If you aren't already, you might consider therapy for you and your husband to learn coping skills, get support for your decision, feel better about yourselves and go on with your lives. I personally needed a lot of support to detach from my daughter. Yes, I believe you can be happy again. If you practice detachment you will land in acceptance, understanding that no matter what you do or don't do, you can't control another. All you can do is learn to respond differently and take care of yourself. Acceptance offers more peace of mind and once you attain that, joy once again becomes a part of your life. It's not an easy path, hence the support for you and your family, but learning to focus your attention on yourself and take it off of your son, is a giant step in your own serenity and health. You've come to the right place, we certainly understand all your feelings. There is a lot of doubt and fear, the unknown is scary and detaching from our own child is quite difficult, but you can do it, you have to do it..............you've made all the right choices thus far, I applaud you for your courage and determination. Your son is a thief and a liar, this is not behavior you would accept from anyone else and you shouldn't accept it from him. I understand your feelings on calling the authorities, but keeping him away from you and your home is a good choice however you do that. At some point, if he does not abide by your wishes you may want to get a restraining order against him to keep him away. Keep posting, it helps. We get it. Vent all you want. Get yourself some support. Stay strong in your resolve, you're doing the right thing. Many gentle hugs coming your way...................... [/QUOTE]
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