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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 581660" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>First let me say welcome to the board. You have a very hard situation with a son who has such severe medical problems but who is abusive towards you also. I too think he uses his health to manipulate the situation. Sadly I agree that he most likely won't change. You cannot allow him to continue to steal from you and you do not want to call in the judicial system. So, the only thing you can do is sever your contact with him and secure yor home, possesions and credit.</p><p></p><p>As for your other question:</p><p></p><p>I do not share my son's story or problems with anyone anymore. When he broke my ribs in an angry outburst my own sister said well maybe he was just...blablabla. I called her out on it and she recanted but she only seemed to have sympathy for him. </p><p></p><p>I continued to help my son after that attack I just would not let him live under my roof. He has assaulted others since then and is currently in prison for it but I still feel like my own family blames me for not being able to fix him. If you can't trust your family how do you trust that society will treat you wih compassion?</p><p></p><p>The only people I talk to about my difficult child are husband, one of my daughters and the kind people on this board. I have lost too many "friends" over the years who were judging me if I did something to help him and others who judged me for not helping him. The history didn't matter. didn't matter that husband and I spent thousands and thousands of dollars on legal fees and treatment programs etc. It didn't matter that he stole from us, verbally abused us, beat both husband and me, slandered me to the point where I had people calling my house and cursing at me from their cars as they drove past. It didnt matter that I was still trying to rehabilitate him after all that... I was still judged. We parents of difficult children are in a loose loose situation. I learned not to trust most people and to keep it light with friends and extended family. My tales of angst are reserved for this board and safe people of whom there are very very few. </p><p></p><p>I adopted a child no one else wanted who turned out to be a sociopath and there is little to no compassion for me or my family. I have paid for it with my health, my family happiness, my finances, and saddest of all...my trusting and open heart. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 581660, member: 2315"] First let me say welcome to the board. You have a very hard situation with a son who has such severe medical problems but who is abusive towards you also. I too think he uses his health to manipulate the situation. Sadly I agree that he most likely won't change. You cannot allow him to continue to steal from you and you do not want to call in the judicial system. So, the only thing you can do is sever your contact with him and secure yor home, possesions and credit. As for your other question: I do not share my son's story or problems with anyone anymore. When he broke my ribs in an angry outburst my own sister said well maybe he was just...blablabla. I called her out on it and she recanted but she only seemed to have sympathy for him. I continued to help my son after that attack I just would not let him live under my roof. He has assaulted others since then and is currently in prison for it but I still feel like my own family blames me for not being able to fix him. If you can't trust your family how do you trust that society will treat you wih compassion? The only people I talk to about my difficult child are husband, one of my daughters and the kind people on this board. I have lost too many "friends" over the years who were judging me if I did something to help him and others who judged me for not helping him. The history didn't matter. didn't matter that husband and I spent thousands and thousands of dollars on legal fees and treatment programs etc. It didn't matter that he stole from us, verbally abused us, beat both husband and me, slandered me to the point where I had people calling my house and cursing at me from their cars as they drove past. It didnt matter that I was still trying to rehabilitate him after all that... I was still judged. We parents of difficult children are in a loose loose situation. I learned not to trust most people and to keep it light with friends and extended family. My tales of angst are reserved for this board and safe people of whom there are very very few. I adopted a child no one else wanted who turned out to be a sociopath and there is little to no compassion for me or my family. I have paid for it with my health, my family happiness, my finances, and saddest of all...my trusting and open heart. -RM [/QUOTE]
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