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Adult daughter lying and hiding things
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 732632" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It is unfortunate when we don't like our grown children's choices but at 24 you can't stop anything she does. My son was about that age when he married a horrible woman. We all saw the disaster but tactfully suggesting anything was ignored. She was a lesson he needed to learn and we had to let him learn it. He, like your daughter, was financially self sufficient.</p><p></p><p>At 21 they don't have to tell us anything and often they don't. Often they don't want our input. At 24 they will not listen to us nor should they nor should they still be living with Mom. We learned our lessons. They learn theirs. They don't have to please us.</p><p></p><p>My son is 40 and finally ending a custody battles for his son in which he fought to keep 50/50 legal and physical custody. It was a three year battle but he did it and is an amazing, loving father and learned a lot about women and relationships too. We are very close.</p><p></p><p>Your daughters growth depends on her decisions, both good and bad. Once they can self support, we have to let them go. We have no choice.</p><p></p><p>I would not obsess over her or read her social media.</p><p></p><p>We give them roots to grow and wings to fly.</p><p></p><p>We can not force adults to fulfil our dreams or even make good choices. All we can do is love them unconditionally as they walk their own paths. I don't really tell any of my four adult kids what to do and all are surviving well. I think it is best for our relationship with them and their learning curb to be quiet.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, light and love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 732632, member: 1550"] It is unfortunate when we don't like our grown children's choices but at 24 you can't stop anything she does. My son was about that age when he married a horrible woman. We all saw the disaster but tactfully suggesting anything was ignored. She was a lesson he needed to learn and we had to let him learn it. He, like your daughter, was financially self sufficient. At 21 they don't have to tell us anything and often they don't. Often they don't want our input. At 24 they will not listen to us nor should they nor should they still be living with Mom. We learned our lessons. They learn theirs. They don't have to please us. My son is 40 and finally ending a custody battles for his son in which he fought to keep 50/50 legal and physical custody. It was a three year battle but he did it and is an amazing, loving father and learned a lot about women and relationships too. We are very close. Your daughters growth depends on her decisions, both good and bad. Once they can self support, we have to let them go. We have no choice. I would not obsess over her or read her social media. We give them roots to grow and wings to fly. We can not force adults to fulfil our dreams or even make good choices. All we can do is love them unconditionally as they walk their own paths. I don't really tell any of my four adult kids what to do and all are surviving well. I think it is best for our relationship with them and their learning curb to be quiet. Hugs, light and love. [/QUOTE]
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