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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 627328" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Jeanne, MWM is correct, if you cut and paste all your posts onto a new thread with your own title, you will receive more responses. If you feel you are going to stay with us and continue posting, you may want to place a signature at the bottom of your posts, as we have done, so we can remember who you are and respond accordingly.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry about the loss of your mother in the midst of all of this. You have really been through the mill, what a horrific time you've had of it. And, lost the accessibility to your grandkids. You've sustained so many losses. As I mentioned in my previous post, I hope you are making sure you are getting support for you and your husband.</p><p></p><p>Well, I'm relieved to hear that you aren't having trouble detaching from your daughter, you're right, what she's done is pretty horrible. </p><p></p><p>MWM talked about personality disorders, a good point. Although is may not really matter since she is who she is, however, if you google any one of those and look for symptoms, you may see a profile of your daughter. I found my daughter to fit many of the narcissistic personality disorder traits. It didn't offer much solace, however it did make some things clearer.</p><p></p><p>You are maintaining a clear head and approaching it with what sounds to me like the right attitude in that your daughter needs to be held accountable and what happens next to her is on her to make of it what she will. </p><p></p><p>For me, although at times it's been a challenge to uphold, I make every attempt to look at these kinds of things as lessons in life that I am offered to learn something. With my daughter it made sense that although it was terrible and sad and filled with so many emotions that were difficult to face, I also realized that I had to learn the places in my life where I allowed people to treat me badly, where I enabled, where I did not demand respect and kindness. I learned about detaching because of her behavior, however, for me, a bigger lesson was acceptance, which translated to many other areas of my life and in fact, changed my life. I saw where I was controlling, I saw where I was judging and critical. It was a painful journey for sure, and yet it had meaning on many levels for me. It helped for me to understand that my suffering had some kind of meaning. I am not sure how your situation can offer you meaning, but perhaps you can see it. At least that perception of things makes sense to me and soothes the horrors of it.</p><p></p><p>Books by Pema Chodron were very helpful for me to see a different perspective. She writes about living in uncertainty and chaos and defines the struggles we have in ways that offered me a certain solace. You may find her books helpful. </p><p></p><p>Again, I'm glad you found us and I encourage you to continue posting. You've sustained some serious blows and our small community here can circle our wagons around you as you learn to heal from this and eventually, move on. Holding peaceful thoughts for you today........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 627328, member: 13542"] Jeanne, MWM is correct, if you cut and paste all your posts onto a new thread with your own title, you will receive more responses. If you feel you are going to stay with us and continue posting, you may want to place a signature at the bottom of your posts, as we have done, so we can remember who you are and respond accordingly. I am sorry about the loss of your mother in the midst of all of this. You have really been through the mill, what a horrific time you've had of it. And, lost the accessibility to your grandkids. You've sustained so many losses. As I mentioned in my previous post, I hope you are making sure you are getting support for you and your husband. Well, I'm relieved to hear that you aren't having trouble detaching from your daughter, you're right, what she's done is pretty horrible. MWM talked about personality disorders, a good point. Although is may not really matter since she is who she is, however, if you google any one of those and look for symptoms, you may see a profile of your daughter. I found my daughter to fit many of the narcissistic personality disorder traits. It didn't offer much solace, however it did make some things clearer. You are maintaining a clear head and approaching it with what sounds to me like the right attitude in that your daughter needs to be held accountable and what happens next to her is on her to make of it what she will. For me, although at times it's been a challenge to uphold, I make every attempt to look at these kinds of things as lessons in life that I am offered to learn something. With my daughter it made sense that although it was terrible and sad and filled with so many emotions that were difficult to face, I also realized that I had to learn the places in my life where I allowed people to treat me badly, where I enabled, where I did not demand respect and kindness. I learned about detaching because of her behavior, however, for me, a bigger lesson was acceptance, which translated to many other areas of my life and in fact, changed my life. I saw where I was controlling, I saw where I was judging and critical. It was a painful journey for sure, and yet it had meaning on many levels for me. It helped for me to understand that my suffering had some kind of meaning. I am not sure how your situation can offer you meaning, but perhaps you can see it. At least that perception of things makes sense to me and soothes the horrors of it. Books by Pema Chodron were very helpful for me to see a different perspective. She writes about living in uncertainty and chaos and defines the struggles we have in ways that offered me a certain solace. You may find her books helpful. Again, I'm glad you found us and I encourage you to continue posting. You've sustained some serious blows and our small community here can circle our wagons around you as you learn to heal from this and eventually, move on. Holding peaceful thoughts for you today........ [/QUOTE]
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