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Adult son addicted to pills and soon to be homeless
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 602010" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>My son turned 35 last week and he has, in my opinion, only gotten worse over the past 3 years. He was clean and sober for about 2 years, started a relationship with the girl from h***. I met her once and had to call the police to stop the harassment. </p><p></p><p>I fell for a homeless con for money for about 4 months. After I stopped giving money he play the 'suicide' card and I was fed up. My son actually went no contact with me around November.</p><p></p><p>I refuse to play his game and until he is serious about getting help I am OK with the no contact. It's just too stressful and the drama was driving me crazy.</p><p></p><p>You and your wife are enabling your son. As long as you continue to give him a place to live, food to eat, and money to spend as he wishes he is not motivated to change.</p><p></p><p>It's sad, it's hard, it's heartbreaking. We all understand. They make us feel like **** because we want them to be responsible and grow up. I also thought mine would one day grow out of it, I'm still waiting. There is no way that you can make your son change for the better - it's something he will have to do for himself. </p><p></p><p>There are a lot of very good books on enabling. This one is free and a great place to start. Counseling is also a good place to start.</p><p><a href="http://www.support4change.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=131&Itemid=177/5/12.html" target="_blank">http://www.support4change.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=131&Itemid=177/5/12.html</a></p><p></p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 602010, member: 13558"] My son turned 35 last week and he has, in my opinion, only gotten worse over the past 3 years. He was clean and sober for about 2 years, started a relationship with the girl from h***. I met her once and had to call the police to stop the harassment. I fell for a homeless con for money for about 4 months. After I stopped giving money he play the 'suicide' card and I was fed up. My son actually went no contact with me around November. I refuse to play his game and until he is serious about getting help I am OK with the no contact. It's just too stressful and the drama was driving me crazy. You and your wife are enabling your son. As long as you continue to give him a place to live, food to eat, and money to spend as he wishes he is not motivated to change. It's sad, it's hard, it's heartbreaking. We all understand. They make us feel like **** because we want them to be responsible and grow up. I also thought mine would one day grow out of it, I'm still waiting. There is no way that you can make your son change for the better - it's something he will have to do for himself. There are a lot of very good books on enabling. This one is free and a great place to start. Counseling is also a good place to start. [URL]http://www.support4change.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=131&Itemid=177/5/12.html[/URL] (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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