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<blockquote data-quote="Scott_G" data-source="post: 603743" data-attributes="member: 16626"><p>In the latest turn of events, South Carolina didn't work out. It seems that there was a bit of misrepresentation on both sides. My son never told his godfather that he was bringing his girlfriend along with him, or that he was nearly homeless due to drugs and bad choices. Apparently the godfather forgot to mention that he lived in a small trailer in a very rural area that he shares with about a half dozen dogs. The son and his girlfriend did not want to stay there, and they quickly realized that a depressed rural area was not the place to go if you want to get your life back together, especially if you don't have a car. He decided that he wanted to go back to his original plan and go to Miami. He called the friend down there that he was originally going to stay with. His friend said he knew of an efficiency they could rent for $75 a week and he was even willing to loan them enough money to cover the rent for two months. The apartment was also right on a bus line. The only problem is that the 20 year old plaything did not want to go. So get this, he tells his mother that he wants to rent a car and bring her back home! (actually I think he was hoping we would take him in). Unfortunately this turn of events caused my wife to have a moment of weakness. She calls me at work all upset. She asks me if he can stay with us on a temporary basis, just until he can save up enough money (how? he has no job) to get a place of his own. Of course my answer is no, and she ends up hanging up on me. The fight continued when I got home. I was especially angered when I found out that this was her idea. He had not asked if he could come live with us. </p><p></p><p>A broken clock tells the correct time twice a day, and even my son can make the right decision once in a while. On Thursday he called his mother to tell her that he was putting 20 year old plaything on a bus back home and that he was getting on a bus to Miami. On Friday we went over to his old house to pick up a few things he wanted us to store for him. Well his ex-wife who originally wanted nothing to do with the house when they split up wasted no time getting back into the house. She changed the locks and our key did not work. My wife called her at work to ask for the keys so we could get the stuff. The ex didn't want to give us the key. She didn't even want us in the house! She said she was going to put his stuff out in the driveway and we could pick it up whenever. She also told my wife that our son ruined her life. So on Saturday the kid calls his mother pining away for his girlfriend. He told her he had a good mind to get on a bus and come back. I overheard the conversation and had to step in. I simply told him not to come home because there was nothing here for him. I told him that his ex had changed the locks on the house and was extremely angry, so that was not an option. He really has no other family in this state, and even if we did allow him to stay with us, it would only be him and not the girlfriend, and since neither of them have a car (and he would not be borrowing ours) he wouldn't be seeing her anyway as her relatives all live at least an hour away (presuming she is staying with family). I told him that the best thing he could do is to forget about her and get on with trying to put his life back together. He agreed to stay in Florida, at least for now.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday my wife calls the ex to see if the stuff has been put out in the driveway to be picked up. Well the ex tells my wife that 20 year old plaything is a heroin addict. Knowing the ex-wife, there is a 50/50 chance that this is actually true. This morning when the kid calls his mother, she confronts him with the accusation his ex-wife made. He reluctantly admits that his girlfriend is a heroin addict and he has been using as well. This is certainly not what we wanted to hear. At least they are not together anymore, for now anyway. As far as cleaning up and getting their acts together, I always thought that they would fail together, but had a chance apart. I felt that him refusing rehab and then taking her out of rehab one week into a 90 day program had doomed them both to failure from the start. Unless they were both serious about getting clean, neither of them would stop using. He says he is still very in love with her and he even started crying while he was talking to his mother today.</p><p></p><p>This whole thing is just a very sad situation. Even though I don't know her, I feel bad for this young girl as well. She's just a kid. I had a chance to talk a bit with her before they left for South Carolina and she told me that she really screwed up her life. She was college bound and had her financial aid all arranged. She was a good kid and loved ballet. But for whatever reason, she decided to throw it all away for drugs. Meeting my son didn't make life better for either of them. Together their lives spiraled out of control faster than they did individually. Now all of her possessions, save what she could fit into a suticase are in OUR basement.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scott_G, post: 603743, member: 16626"] In the latest turn of events, South Carolina didn't work out. It seems that there was a bit of misrepresentation on both sides. My son never told his godfather that he was bringing his girlfriend along with him, or that he was nearly homeless due to drugs and bad choices. Apparently the godfather forgot to mention that he lived in a small trailer in a very rural area that he shares with about a half dozen dogs. The son and his girlfriend did not want to stay there, and they quickly realized that a depressed rural area was not the place to go if you want to get your life back together, especially if you don't have a car. He decided that he wanted to go back to his original plan and go to Miami. He called the friend down there that he was originally going to stay with. His friend said he knew of an efficiency they could rent for $75 a week and he was even willing to loan them enough money to cover the rent for two months. The apartment was also right on a bus line. The only problem is that the 20 year old plaything did not want to go. So get this, he tells his mother that he wants to rent a car and bring her back home! (actually I think he was hoping we would take him in). Unfortunately this turn of events caused my wife to have a moment of weakness. She calls me at work all upset. She asks me if he can stay with us on a temporary basis, just until he can save up enough money (how? he has no job) to get a place of his own. Of course my answer is no, and she ends up hanging up on me. The fight continued when I got home. I was especially angered when I found out that this was her idea. He had not asked if he could come live with us. A broken clock tells the correct time twice a day, and even my son can make the right decision once in a while. On Thursday he called his mother to tell her that he was putting 20 year old plaything on a bus back home and that he was getting on a bus to Miami. On Friday we went over to his old house to pick up a few things he wanted us to store for him. Well his ex-wife who originally wanted nothing to do with the house when they split up wasted no time getting back into the house. She changed the locks and our key did not work. My wife called her at work to ask for the keys so we could get the stuff. The ex didn't want to give us the key. She didn't even want us in the house! She said she was going to put his stuff out in the driveway and we could pick it up whenever. She also told my wife that our son ruined her life. So on Saturday the kid calls his mother pining away for his girlfriend. He told her he had a good mind to get on a bus and come back. I overheard the conversation and had to step in. I simply told him not to come home because there was nothing here for him. I told him that his ex had changed the locks on the house and was extremely angry, so that was not an option. He really has no other family in this state, and even if we did allow him to stay with us, it would only be him and not the girlfriend, and since neither of them have a car (and he would not be borrowing ours) he wouldn't be seeing her anyway as her relatives all live at least an hour away (presuming she is staying with family). I told him that the best thing he could do is to forget about her and get on with trying to put his life back together. He agreed to stay in Florida, at least for now. Yesterday my wife calls the ex to see if the stuff has been put out in the driveway to be picked up. Well the ex tells my wife that 20 year old plaything is a heroin addict. Knowing the ex-wife, there is a 50/50 chance that this is actually true. This morning when the kid calls his mother, she confronts him with the accusation his ex-wife made. He reluctantly admits that his girlfriend is a heroin addict and he has been using as well. This is certainly not what we wanted to hear. At least they are not together anymore, for now anyway. As far as cleaning up and getting their acts together, I always thought that they would fail together, but had a chance apart. I felt that him refusing rehab and then taking her out of rehab one week into a 90 day program had doomed them both to failure from the start. Unless they were both serious about getting clean, neither of them would stop using. He says he is still very in love with her and he even started crying while he was talking to his mother today. This whole thing is just a very sad situation. Even though I don't know her, I feel bad for this young girl as well. She's just a kid. I had a chance to talk a bit with her before they left for South Carolina and she told me that she really screwed up her life. She was college bound and had her financial aid all arranged. She was a good kid and loved ballet. But for whatever reason, she decided to throw it all away for drugs. Meeting my son didn't make life better for either of them. Together their lives spiraled out of control faster than they did individually. Now all of her possessions, save what she could fit into a suticase are in OUR basement. [/QUOTE]
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