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Adult son mom's guilt needs support
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 708450" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Joysheph,</p><p></p><p>Welcome! I'm so sorry for what you are going through but am so glad you found us here. Your feelings are very normal and yes they are hard to deal with. </p><p></p><p>What I can tell you is you are doing the right thing. I know how hard it is to detach, I've been there. You are right, your son wants to come home because it offers him a safe place but then it's not safe for you anymore. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes it's hard for a parent to accept that their life matters too. For so many years we have lived for our children, putting their needs first. Then they grow up and start to make their own decisions, good or bad. That's on them. </p><p></p><p>There is a term we use here. Coming out of the FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) I think this is where you are right now. </p><p></p><p>You will get through this. Read the posts from others and keep posting. Let us know how you are doing. We care.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 708450, member: 18516"] Hi Joysheph, Welcome! I'm so sorry for what you are going through but am so glad you found us here. Your feelings are very normal and yes they are hard to deal with. What I can tell you is you are doing the right thing. I know how hard it is to detach, I've been there. You are right, your son wants to come home because it offers him a safe place but then it's not safe for you anymore. Sometimes it's hard for a parent to accept that their life matters too. For so many years we have lived for our children, putting their needs first. Then they grow up and start to make their own decisions, good or bad. That's on them. There is a term we use here. Coming out of the FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) I think this is where you are right now. You will get through this. Read the posts from others and keep posting. Let us know how you are doing. We care. :notalone::staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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